Adoption a Choice for Life

2012 House Judiciary Ethical Adoption Practice

2012-02-07T16:11:00.000-07:00

February 7, 2012

Dear Ethical Adoption Advocate:

SB27 got a “Do Pass” out of House Consumer and Public Affairs Committee today thanks to all your efforts! We’re on to our last committee, House Judiciary!

We believe that SB27 will be heard before House Judiciary Committee either Friday Feb 10^th or Saturday the 11^th Remember that members of a committee represent the whole state so it is alright for you to contact each of them. Give your name and address, or county of residence.

1) Call or email the committee members below. Ask them to VOTE YES on SB27 sponsored by Senator John Ryan. Thank them for their big YES VOTE only ten months ago as (HB125 & 158 sponsored by Rep. Al Park) that nearly made it through both Chambers. They’re now combined into one Bill (unchanged except for an emergency clause).

2) Ask if they will help SB27 get on House Judiciary Committee’s consent calendar at the soonest possible time. Remind them that House Judiciary has given this legislation a “Do Pass” the last three times it has been before them (2011, 2009, 2007).

RECAP OF THE PROBLEM Over the last ten years, adoption in New Mexico has fallen prey to profit-driven, out of state adoption businesses not licensed here. NM licensed professionals and vulnerable residents involved in an adoption process often face a serious crisis. These Predatory adoption businesses attract unsuspecting birth parents and adoptive parents to them through large-scale advertising. Everyone is fooled by their advertising, even unsuspecting crisis pregnancy centers, churches and medical clinics. NM is losing our licensed agencies that simply cannot compete with these million dollar advertising budgets. They provide informal but costly adoption services for months. They wait until the last moment to contact NM licensed professionals to furnish the minimum legally required adoption service. They promise mothers money for surrendering their baby for adoption. That is child trafficking! With much hanging in the balance, we discover at the last most vulnerable moments that those involved in these predatory adoption processes have been misinformed of the facts involved in their adoption process, and their rights and requirements in adoption.

Please let the Members of House Judiciary Committee know how you’re connected to the adoption community and why ethical adoption practice is important to you. Paste pictures of your children into your emails or speak passionately of how important it is to you that birth parents, adoptees and adoptive parents are supported in an ethical, fully legal adoption process in our State.

It’s preferable to send a separate letter or email addressed to each committee member but if you are short on time send an email to all committee members at the same time by

1) highlighting all the email addresses in the last column (sometimes you have to hit reply to sender first in order for this to work)

2) click on “copy”

3) “paste” the email addresses into “Bcc” (preferable) or “To” on your email page. (Send a copy to yourself) so your letter will be ready when SB27 reaches the the House Floor (last stop before the Governor)! You can also cut and paste our flyer into your letter if you want.

If you send a group email, address it to: Mr. Chair, Members of House Judiciary Committee:

House Judiciary Committee 2012 * voted against it in 2011

Name, Title	Email	Phone	District
Rep. Al Park, Chair House Judiciary Committee (Thank him for being the sponsor of this legislation last year. He will sponsor it on the House Floor this year!)	alpark.nm@gmail.com,	505) 986-4413	26 Bernalillo
Rep. Joseph Cervantes, Vice Chair House Judiciary Committee	Joseph@cervanteslawnm.com,	505) 986-4234	52 Dona Ana
Rep. Eliseo Alcon, Member House Judiciary Committee	eliseoalcon@msn.com,	505 986 4243	6 Cibola & McKinley
Rep. Paul Bandy, Member House Judiciary Committee	paul@paulbandy.org,	505 986-4243	3 San Juan
Rep. Cathrynn Brown Member House Judiciary Committee	c.brown.nm55@gmail.com,	505 986.4211	55 Eddy
Rep. David Chavez, Member House Judiciary Committee	David.chavez@nmlegis.gov,	505 986 4451	7 Valencia
Rep. Zachary Cook, Member House Judiciary Committee	zachjcook@gmail.com,	505 986 4454	56 Lincoln & Otero
Rep. Brian Egolf, Member House Judiciary Committee	brian@brianegolf.com,	505 986 4423	47 Santa Fe
Rep. Nate Gentry, Member of House Judiciary	natefornm@gmail.com,	505 986 4249	30 Bernalillo
Rep. Bill Rehm, Member of House Judiciary Committee	Bill.rehm@nmlegis.gov,	505 986 4248	31 Bernalillo
Rep. Mimi Stewart, Member House Judiciary Committee	mstewart@osogrande.com,	505 986 4344	21 Bernalillo

The three members of House Judiciary (below) are also members of House Consumer and Public Affairs Committee and voted YES in that committee this year and last year. Please just write a short note thanking them for their consistent support for restricting predatory adoptions in NM.

Rep. Gail Chasey, Member House Judiciary Committee	gailchasey@msn.com,	505 986 4944	18 Bernalillo
Rep. Bill O’Neill, Member of House Judiciary Committee	Oneillhd15@fastmail.us,	505 986 4464	15 Bernalillo
Rep. Moe Maestes, Member of House Judiciary Committee	Rep16@moejustice.com,	505 986 4233	16 Bernalillo

Senate Judiciary- Support Ethical Adoption Practice

2012-01-27T13:47:00.000-07:00

January 27^th, 2012

Dear Advocates for Ethical Adoption Practice in NM:

We got our “Do Pass” out of Senate Public Affairs Committee today with your help. Thank you for your passion and commitment to getting this ethical adoption passed.

We’re on to Senate Judiciary (below) - this SATURDAY JAN 28^th but for sure Monday Jan 30^th. From now on watch your email LIKE A HAWK as things may move fast during the remaining two weeks of this short-session and we need your help and that of those you know to get this passed!.

Please let members of this committee know how you’re connected to the adoption community and why ethical adoption practice is important to you. Paste pictures of your children into your emails or speak passionately of how important it is to you that birth parents, adoptees and adoptive parents are supported in an ethical, fully legal adoption process in our State.

To see the full legislation go to www.nmlegis.gov Legislation SB 27

RECAP OF THE PROBLEM Over the last ten years, adoption in New Mexico has fallen prey to profit-driven, out of state adoption businesses not licensed here. NM licensed professionals and vulnerable residents involved in an adoption process often face a serious crisis. These Predatory adoption businesses attract unsuspecting birth parents and adoptive parents to them through large-scale advertising. They provide informal but costly adoption services for months. They wait until the last moment to contact NM licensed professionals to furnish the minimum legally required adoption service. They promise mothers money for surrendering their baby for adoption. That is child trafficking! With much hanging in the balance, we discover at the last most vulnerable moments that those involved in these predatory adoption processes have been misinformed of the facts involved in their adoption process, and their rights and requirements in adoption.

See the fast-facts sheet below for how SB27 will help restore ethical adoption practice in New Mexico.

1) Call Senator Ryan’s legislative office at 986-4373 and thank him for sponsoring SB27.

2) Call (weekdays) or email ASAP the members of Senate Judiciary Committee (below). Ask them to VOTE YES on SB27 sponsored by Senator John Ryan. Include your name and your address. Committees represent the whole state so it does not matter if you are in their district. If you can, please attend this committee meeting to stand in support of SB27. It would be nice to have friendly support with us!

It’s preferable to send a separate letter or email addressed to each committee member but if you are short on time you send an email to all committee members at the same time by:

1) highlighting all the email addresses in the last column (sometimes you can’t do this unless you have clicked on “reply to sender firs”).

2) click on “copy”

3) “paste” the email addresses into “Bcc” (preferable) or “To” on your email page. (Send a copy to yourself) so your letter will be ready to when SB27 reaches the next committee. You can also cut and paste our flyer into your letter if you want.

If you send a group email, address it to: Mr. Chairman, Members of Senate Judiciary Committee :

SENATE JUDICIARY
Meets Mondays, Wednesdays & Fridays – 2:30 p.m. - Room 321

Name of Senator / Role on Senate Judiciary Committee	District / County	Capitol Phone	Email
Sen. Richard C. Martinez, Chair	Dist. 5, Los Alamos, Rio Arriba, Santa Fe Co.	986-4487	rcmartinez@email.com,
Sen. Peter Wirth, Vice Chair	Dist 25, Santa Fe	986-4276	Peter.wirth@nmlegis.gov.
Sen. Lisa Curtis	Dist 21, Bernalillo & Sandoval	986 4589	lisa@curtislawfirm.org,
Sen. Tim Eichenberg, member	Dist. 15, Bernalillo	986-4859	Tim.eichenberg@nmlegis.gov,
Sen. Eric G. Griego	Dist. 14, Bernalillo & Valencia	986-4862	Eric.griego@nmlegis.gov,
Sen. Clinton D. Harden	Dist. 7, Colfax, Curry, Quay, San Miguel, Taos & Union	986-4369	charden@theosogroup.com,
Sen. Linda M. Lopez	Dist. 11, Bernalillo	986-4737	Linda.lopez@nmlegis.gov,
Sen. Cisco McSorley	Dist. 16, Bernalillo	986-4389	Cisco.mcsorley@nmlegis.gov,
Sen. Sander Rue	Dist. 23, Bernalillo & Sandoval	986-4375	sanderrue@comcast.net,
Sen. John C. Ryan	Dist. 10, Bernalillo & Sandoval	986-4373	johnchrisryan@yahoo.com,
Sen. Michael S. Sanchez	Dist. 29, Valencia	986-4727	senatormssanchez@aol.com,
Sen. William H. Payne	Dist. 20, Bernalillo	986-4703	William.payne@nmlegis.gov,

Ethical Adoption Legislation

2012-01-23T10:36:00.003-07:00

Dear Ethical Adoption Advocate:

Let the Members of Senate Public Affairs Committee (below) know how you’re connected to the adoption community and why ethical adoption practice is important to you. Paste pictures of your children into your emails or speak passionately of how important it is to you that birth parents, adoptees and adoptive parents are supported in an ethical, fully legal adoption process in our State.

To see the full legislation go to http://www.nmlegis.gov/ Legislation SB 27

1) Call or email the members of Senate Public Affairs Committee (below). Ask them to VOTE YES on SB27 sponsored by Senator John Ryan. Include your name and your address. If you can, please attend this committee meeting to stand in support of SB27.

It’s preferable to send a separate letter or email addressed to each committee member but if you are short on time send an email to all committee members at the same time by

1) highlighting all the email addresses in the last column 2) click on “copy” 3) “paste” the email addresses into “Bcc” (preferable) or “To” on your email page. (Send a copy to yourself) so your letter will be ready to when SB27 reaches the next committee. You can also cut and paste our flyer into your letter if you want.

If you send a group email, address it to: Madam Chair, Members of Senate Public Affairs Committee Member:

RECAP OF THE PROBLEM Over the last ten years, adoption in New Mexico has fallen prey to profit-driven, out of state adoption businesses not licensed here. NM licensed professionals and vulnerable residents involved in an adoption process often face a serious crisis. These predatory adoption businesses attract unsuspecting birth parents and adoptive parents to them through large-scale advertising. They provide informal but costly adoption services for months. They wait until the last moment to contact NM licensed professionals to furnish the minimum legally required adoption service. They promise mothers money for surrendering their baby for adoption. That is child trafficking! With much hanging in the balance, we discover at the last most vulnerable moments that those involved in these predatory adoption processes have been misinformed of the facts involved in their adoption process, and their rights and requirements in adoption.

SENATE PUBLIC AFFAIRS COMMITTEE

Meets 2:30pm Tuesday, Thursday in Room 321 & Fridays Room 303

Name of Senator                    Phone                    Email
Sen. Dede Feldman, Chair     505-986-4482 Dede.Feldman@nmlegis.gov
Sen. Tim Eichenberg, Vice     505-986-4859 Tim.eichenberg@nmlegis.gov
Lisa Curtis                               505-986-4392 lisa@curtislawfirm.org
Sen. Eric G. Griego, member 505-986-4862 Eric.griego@nmlegis.gov
Sen. Vernon Asbill, member    505-986-4393 vernon@asbillforsenate.com,
Sen. Mark Boitano, member 505-986-4366 boitanom@aol.com
Mary Jane Garcia, Member 505-986-4726 Maryjane.garcia@nmlegis.gov
Cynthia Nava, Member          505-986-4834 Cynthia.nava@nmlegis.gov
William F. Burt     505-986-1414   Bill.burt@nmlegis.gov

Portales News-Tribune

2011-11-15T13:43:00.000-07:00

“It is an honor to work with birth-parents, children and adoptive families," says Malisa Williams. “Being a part of forming families through the blessing of adoption is an amazing benefit of my job."

See the attached newspaper article to read more about our services:
Newspaper pntonline.com/

Christian Child Placement Service, Adoption Agency
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.LovingAdoptionOptions.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
twiter: @pregnancy_adopt
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex. 14

Unplanned Pregnancies

2011-09-23T08:44:00.003-06:00

Unplanned pregnancies can occur at anytime and to anyone. Although some choose to raise their child, others are looking for options. No matter if you are choosing to parent or wanting to look at all of your options we can provide help during this stressful time. We provide an important service by helping the birth parent sort out their options and find resources.

Christian Child Placement Service, Adoption Agency
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
twiter: @pregnancy_adopt
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex. 14

Adoption Poetry

2011-09-08T14:32:00.004-06:00

“To Parents of Adopted Children”
written by Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, who was adopted.

You cannot change the truth
these are your children
but they came from somewhere else
and they are the children of those places
and of those people as well

Help them to know all about their past
and all about their present
help them to know that they are from extended families
that they only have one parent or set of parents
but that they have more mothers and fathers
they have grandmothers, godmothers, birthmothers, mother countries and
mother earth
they have grandfathers, godfathers, birthfathers and fatherlands
they have family by birth and by adoption
they have family by choice and by chance

Childhood is short
they are our children to raise
they are our children to love
and then they are citizens of the world
What we do to them creates the world that we live in
Give them life
Give them their truth
Give them love
Give them all that they came with
Give them all that they grow with

Your children do not belong to you
but they belong with you
you cannot keep them from what is theirs
but you can keep loving them
You do not own your children
but they are your own

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
twiter: @pregnancy_adopt
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex. 14

Unplanned Pregnancy Options

2011-08-23T10:57:00.000-06:00

"I have so much love for the adoptive parents who are raising my son. They were there to pick up the pieces I was unable to place. I couldn't have chosen a better family to raise my son! They are perfect! God led us together for a reason and I believe God opened my eyes to a whole new outlook on life!" ~Birthmom

To lear more about options with an unexpected pregnancy follow the link:

Unplanned Pregnancy Options

The Adoption Poem

2011-08-18T14:18:00.000-06:00

The Adoption Poem

Once there were two women who never knew each other,

One – you do not remember, the other you call mother.
Two different lives shaped to make yours,
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun.
The first gave you life, and the second taught you to live in it.
The first gave you a need for love and the second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality; the other gave you a name.
One gave you the seed of talent; the other gave you an aim.
One gave you emotions; the other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile; the other dried your tears.
One gave you up – that’s all she could do.
The other prayed for a child and God led her straight to you.
Now you ask through all your tears the age-old question through the years;
Heredity or environment – which are you a product of?
Neither, my darling – neither – just two different kinds of love.

-Author Unknown

Christian Child Placement Service

e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org

http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/

http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife

1800-553-2229

NM Licensed Adoption Agency's

2011-08-16T11:35:00.000-06:00

The Christian Child Placement is a member of the Adoption Alliance in New Mexico. This alliance of adoption professionals are caring adoption workers who want the best for each person considering adoption.

Here is a link to all of the licensed adoption agency’s in NM:

http://newmexicoadoptionagencies.org/alliance-of-nm-adoption-agencies

Christian Child Placement Service

e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org

http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/

http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife

1800-553-2229

5 things I Wish I'd Known Before Marriage

2011-08-09T13:38:00.000-06:00

When I have the opportunity to talk with a premarried couple, here are some of the things I say:

#1: Marriage is not all about you. It is not about your happiness and self-fulfillment or getting your needs met. It is about going through life together and serving God together and serving each other. It is about establishing a family. It is about committing your lives to each other even though you may be very different in 5, 15, or 45 years from the people you are now.

#2: Getting married teaches a very painful lesion; you are both very selfish people. This may be hard to understand during the happy dating period, but it is true...and shocks many couples during their first years of marriage. It is important to know this revelation is coming, because then you can make an allowance for it and you will be a lot better off with those adjustments.

#3: The person you love the most is also the person who can hurt you the deepest. That is the risk and pain of marriage. And the beauty of marriage is working through your hurt and pain and resolving your conflicts and solving your problems.

#4: You can't make it work on your own. It's obvious that marriage is difficult; just look at how many couple’s marriages today end in divorce. This is why it is so critical to center your lives and your marriage on God who created marriage. To enable your marriage to last a lifetime you need to rely on God for the power, love, strength, wisdom and endurance you need.

#5: Never stop enjoying each other. Always remember that marriage is a wonderful gift to be enjoyed. Enjoy the little things of life with your spouse: food you like together, movies, inside jokes, laughing, games, leisure time, etc. Also make memories together, plan dates, getaways reserving time for each other after you have kids. When you get old you will then remember what you did together, saw together, and created together.

Christian Child Placement Service

e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org

http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife

1-800-553-2229

In the womb: Sensing the world outside

2011-08-02T15:55:00.000-06:00

The ability to hear in utero appears around 23 weeks, as any pregnant woman in her second or third trimester can attest; if she sneezes, the baby jumps.

But if the same noise is repeated frequently, your baby will get used to it and stop responding. No need to worry — that's a sign that the brain is developing normally, says Lise Eliot, an associate professor of neuroscience at Chicago Medical School and author of What's Going On In There? How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life.

Breathing underwater. Your baby begins to "breathe" while he's still in the womb, even though his lungs aren't taking in any oxygen, says Eliot. At around 27 weeks, his fluid-filled lungs will start to expand and compress due to the rhythmic contractions of your diaphragm and chest muscles, which help him develop the muscles and motor circuits necessary for actual breathing. So by the time your newborn takes his first gulp of real air, he'll have had plenty of practice.

Scent from beyond. Starting around 28 weeks, your baby can smell in the womb the same things that you're smelling outside. Some of the evidence about fetuses' sense of smell comes from preemies: In one study, peppermint extract was held under the noses of pre-term babies. Those younger than 28 weeks didn't respond, while the older ones reacted by sucking, grimacing, or moving away.

Your baby's sense of smell is actually enhanced by the amniotic fluid she's floating in, says Eliot, because we're better able to smell things after the odor molecules join with a liquid (like nasal mucus). During the third trimester, the placenta also lets odor molecules pass through it more easily. So when you order that vibrant smelling dish in your ninth month, your baby is taking in the aroma right along with you.

Christian Child Placement Service

e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org

http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/

http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229

Pregnancy Options

2011-06-28T11:44:00.001-06:00

click here to view the site: Pregnancy Options

If you’re considering abortion you may be asking yourself the question, “When does life begin?” It may be confusing when Pro-life and Pro-choice advocates will tell you such different things. With the help of advanced technology, we are learning more about the growth of the baby inside the womb. Consider the following; around the 20th day after conception a baby’s brain, spinal cord, and nervous system are already established. The 21st day the baby’s heart begins to beat. At 35 days five fingers can be distinguished on the baby’s hand. Around 40 days brain waves can be detected. At the 8th week everything is now present that will be found in a fully developed adult. By the 13th week it is apparent that the baby is a boy or a girl. The baby can hear by the 5th month of pregnancy. When you are 7 months pregnant the baby’s fours senses are working; the baby’s vision, hearing, taste, and touch are all intact.

If you’re considering getting an abortion, but want to know more about the baby development first, please contact us. Our caring staff desires to provide you with honest answers about abortion and treat you with respect and the utmost dignity.

help@unwantedpregnancyoptions.org

Advocates for Ethical Adoption Practice in New Mexico

2011-06-23T11:59:00.002-06:00

Dear Advocates for Ethical Adoption Practice in New Mexico

The Restricting Predatory Adoption Practicess bills almost made it to Governor Martinez’s desk for her signature in March. We’re trying now to get it on the Governor’s call list for the special session in September. We cannot tell you how much appreciate the time, energy and thought you have invested in advocating for ethical adoption practice in our state. It takes persistence to get a bill passed!

Please write (best) or call the Governor Martinez (505-476-2200) asking her to put the Restricting Predatory Adoption Practices bill (2011 session HB125 and HB158) on her call for the Special Session. Please include your full contact information.

Governor Susana Martinez
Office of the Governor
490 Old Santa Fe Trail
Santa Fe, New Mexico 87501

Please send an email copy to adoptally@gmail.com

This time the bill will start in the Senate with Senator John Ryan as sponsor. Like Representative Al Park in the house, he’s an adoptive dad. This is a completely non-partisan issue.

Your letters in the past spoke passionately and eloquently of your relationship to adoption and the importance for ethical, legal adoption practice in our state. Other points you could include are:

1) The urgency of this matter due to predatory, unlicensed, out of state businesses dominating adoption in New Mexico..

2) These proposed amendments to the Adoption Act would close loop holes that currently allow unlicensed predatory adoption businesses to operate in New Mexico without over-sight, regulation or penalties. 32 other states have had to enact similar legislation.

3) Birth and adoptive families cannot distinguish between a legitimate adoption service provider when they see advertising in the yellow pages, newspapers or by electronic medium and are drawn into extremely expensive, illegal and often perilous adoption processes.

4) In 2011 session we had enormous support throughout the legislative process. This bill should fly through committees. The legislators understood the urgency and importance of this concern.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife

Unexpected Pregnancy

2011-06-15T14:28:00.001-06:00

Whether you have been married for ten years or are only in a relationship for a few months, an unplanned pregnancy can change your whole world. We understand those concerns, and have been working with women who had unexpected pregnancies for over 30 years. Over 3 million of the 6.4 million pregnancies in the US are unplanned. Almost two-thirds, or two million of those are unwanted.

Most of those unplanned pregnancies, over two-thirds, are to teens and girls in their twenties. Many of those young ladies do not seek prenatal care for their pregnancies, and increase the risk of a preterm baby or low birth weight baby. We are here to help you understand what you need to do to care for your unborn baby, and to offer the complete picture of what options you have.

If you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and don’t know where to turn, please call us. We have caring staff that are willing to help in any way we can, and provide you with the information to care for your unborn child and yourself. You can call us at 1-800-553-BABY or email us at help@unexpectedpregnancy.net

"Unplanned"- voice for life and women in crisis

2011-06-14T11:09:00.002-06:00

If you are experiencing an unexpected pregnancy and would like support we are here to help!

The documentary "Unplanned" shares Abby's story, it takes you back to the Planned Parenthood clinic where she worked for years as a pro-choice advocate. You’ll hear directly from Abby how a few moments in a room of that same clinic changed her perspective, and her life, forever.

In this intriguing and inspirational story, you’ll follow Abby on a journey into her past—through her wrestling with an incredible personal dilemma and making a difficult choice—and ultimately to her current mission to fight for life and help women in crisis.

Follow the link http://uniteforlifewebcast.org/ to learn more about the documentary "Unplanned."

Contact us for unplanned pregnancy support.
e-mail: help@pregnantandalone.org; 1-800-553-2229

Considering Adoption

2011-06-13T11:58:00.001-06:00

If you are experiencing an unexpected pregnancy and possibly have other children already quiet time to yourself may already be minimal.

Tranquility—a little peace and quiet—I need more of it. Do you? For the average American woman, rest has become an elusive dream. More often than not, we are stressed with the double burden of working a full-time job and taking care of family. For most, it is pretty overwhelming and exhausting. When I finally have the time to relax, am annoyed by the thoughts of what has not yet been done.

If you are weighing your options with your pregnancy we are here to help you.

Learn to release your hands and rely on God to make it through your day. He promises not to give us more than we can handle. Be sure to understand and discern what we may be trying to handle beyond what God asks us to.

As the day progresses, cast your burdens and worries onto Him. God will still be sovereign even if you do not have time today to finish what can wait for tomorrow. Relax in His perfect peace.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229

The First Year of Life

2011-06-07T11:27:00.000-06:00

"Jesus loves the little children, all the children of the world. Red, and yellow, black and white they are precious in his sight- Jesus loves the little children of the world. " As I watch the movie, Babies, I'm reminded how special children of EVERY ethnicity are. It makes the childhood song from church, "Jesus loves the little children of the world" even more special, when you can take a glimpse at the first year of life from babies from Mongolia, Namibia, San Francisco to Tokyo.

Adoption Story

2011-06-02T13:17:00.000-06:00

When Po the Panda ventures out with his team “the Furious 5” to save Kung Fu and China from villains, he learns that he was adopted as a young cub. At this news, Po sets out to learn of his identity and where he came from. This heroic tale will inspire adoptive families and is a must see!

Pregnancy Symptoms

2011-06-01T13:50:00.000-06:00

Now that your pregnant, you will want to get some education on baby development so that your baby will get all the good nutrition he/she needs. If you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, please feel free to call our agency if you'd like to talk and work through all the options that are available to you right now.

Week by Week Pregnancy

2011-05-25T10:35:00.000-06:00

Have you wondered what your baby looks like as he/she is growing inside of you. This helpful tool will show you how!
\http://www.babycenter.com/fetal-development-images-gallery

The 5 Love languages

2011-05-23T13:10:00.000-06:00

Have you ever felt like you were speaking a different language with your boyrfirend/ girlfriend, or husband/wife? Perhaps you have tried to communicate something with the best intentions, but somehow ended up in a big argument. Sometimes families just need a little education to begin communicating better with their families. Gary Chapmen gives some helpful tools to begin speaking in your wife or kid's "love langage." Have your family take the test to learn their love language.

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/

Adoption Stories

2011-05-19T12:04:00.000-06:00

When David Platt preached on James 1:27, "Religion that Our God accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world," the response of the church was extraodrinary. Families decided to put their faith into action by being foster parents, and starting the process of adoption. Be inspired by watching this beautiful video of families who have changed Birmingham and the lives of children:

http://www.brookhills.org/local/adults/care-for-children.html

How do I find the right person to date?

2011-05-13T11:44:00.000-06:00

By: Focus on the Family
How can I find the right person to date? I'm a Christian high-schooler who is anxious to please God, but my past relationships with members of the opposite sex haven't turned out to be very positive experiences. What can I do to avoid this in the future?

You're to be commended on your diligence, foresight and obvious desire to please the Lord. Unfortunately, many young people don't give much serious thought to issues like dating, marriage and sexual purity. Instead, they allow themselves to be led by feelings and passions and wake up at some later date filled with remorse and regrets.

As you move forward in this important area of life it's vital to bear in mind that the most important aspect of any relationship is the character of the individuals involved. You may be attracted to someone by personality or physical good looks, but if there is no depth of character behind the veneer you'll find it hard — if not impossible — to forge a lasting and meaningful bond with that person.

People get to know one another on the level of deep and genuine character by spending lots of time together. Before becoming romantically involved with an individual of the opposite sex, you should do the hard work of building a real friendship with that person. As the two of you go through a wide variety of experiences together, you will have many opportunities to discover the truth about one another's morals, values, attitudes and ways of treating other people. This crucial information will help you decide whether or not you want to go beyond the stage of mere friendship.

In Galatians 5:22 the apostle Paul gives us a wonderful list of qualities that you can use as a "character reference guide" when considering the possibility of becoming more closely involved with an individual of the opposite sex. A person who manifests the fruit of the Holy Spirit, says Paul, will exhibit peace, joy, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. These are precisely the characteristics you want to look for in a potential life-partner.

Don't misunderstand. We're not recommending that you hold other people to an unrealistic or perfectionistic standard. We're all fallen human beings, and this means that we often make mistakes and behave in ways that are completely contrary to the qualities included in Paul's list. That's where the Holy Spirit comes in. That's where we come face to face with our deep need of God's grace. Nevertheless, if you find yourself strongly attracted to an individual who doesn't display several of these characteristics, you should probably think again. That person is definitely not a good dating prospect — no matter how smart, successful or good-looking he or she may be.

If you're not involved in a solid, Christ-centered youth group, we'd suggest that you do some research and find a church in your area that has one. Make sure that it's based around things like discipleship, spiritual maturity and Christian service rather than just fun and games. Take part in group activities that include members of both sexes and get to know as many people as you can. This will equip you with the wisdom, maturity and discernment you'll need in order to recognize a potential mate when you see one.

Our last piece of advice may be the most important of all: seek wise counsel from trusted Christian adults. Talk to your parents about this issue. Make an appointment to discuss it with your pastor or youth leader. If for some reason you don't feel that you can broach this subject with your mom and dad, find out if your pastor can match you up with a mature, happily married Christian couple in your church. If all else fails, give us a call here at 1-800-553-2229.

Christian Adoption Agency

2011-05-10T10:27:00.001-06:00

If you are just starting to look into adoption or you have been considering the adoption option for a while now we can help you learn more about adoption and help you select the family you would like to place your child in.

The Christian Child Placement Service has been committed to supporting birth families and helping children since 1979. We can help you with your needs immediately.

Our services are extensive for birth parents. We are available seven days a week and we are on call just for you. We care about you and your child. We provide free, ongoing support without judgment.

Contact us today!
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Starting Out a Dating Relationship

2011-05-09T10:39:00.001-06:00

When couples mistakenly look to each other as the sole source of encouragement, comfort, fellowship, tenderness and compassion, life becomes complicated.

from Focus on the Family

If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. Philippians 2:1-2

We are given a truly beautiful picture of marriage in this scripture: being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. It’s a glorious tapestry to imagine, especially as a couple begins their life together, but it’s also an imagining that can be wrought with questions like how to even begin to weave such glory.

What we need to know is that we are not called to do the weaving; we are called to yield to the Father so that we can be woven together by Him.

Look at the first part of this scripture and consider what each person has the potential to bring into a marriage out of the overflow of their relationship with Jesus: encouragement, comfort, fellowship, tenderness and compassion. What an amazing description of what we long for in marriage. It is from that springboard in which a couple is able to discover the rhythm of their life and love together.

When couples mistakenly look to each other as the sole source of encouragement, comfort, fellowship, tenderness and compassion, life becomes complicated. We are called to offer these things to each other, but if our source is not Jesus, we will be quickly depleted of these gifts and will harbor resentment and feelings of inadequacy in our relationship.

Let us first encourage one another in our personal relationship with Jesus, and then let Him craft our corporate relationship with Him, and we will watch with humility and awe as He begins to weave us together in Him.

Lord God, the colors of your heart are stunning. Take those colors and weave us into a tapestry of your design. As a couple, let us yield to You and trust that You will cover us in your love. That in our lives and love You are glorified.

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What It Means to Be Intimate

2011-05-08T21:02:00.000-06:00

"Our souls crave intimacy"—by: Erwin Raphael McManus
Sometimes singles will do just about anything to get close to someone they find interesting, intriguing or just plain irresistible.

One single woman I know drives through Starbucks daily to get her dose of caffeine. One morning as she approached the speaker to order, she noticed that the man in the truck in front of her looked very attractive. She eyed him through his rear view mirror. Wow! Handsome! Hmmm. . . I wonder if he's single. In a split second she made a plan.

"Hi. Welcome to Starbucks. What can I get started for you today?"

"Well to start, can you do something for me? Will you ask the guy in front of me if he's available?"

"You mean the guy in the truck? Suuuuuure. I'd love to. What else can I do for you?"

After she ordered her half-pump, no whip, soy, Venti mocha, she laughed at herself and thought, What in the world have I done?

She blushed as the hunky man in the truck pulled to the drive-up window. She watched as Ms. Starbucks asked if he was available. And then, in a flash, she watched as he drove away.

When she got to the window, she learned through Ms. Starbucks' giggles that he was indeed, attached, married even.

Sometimes singles—and everyone else on the planet—will go to great lengths and even make complete fools of themselves to get close to the opposite sex.

Why? Is it because our innate desire for sex? Is it because of loneliness? Desperation? Stupidity? Hormones? Of course, it can be all of the above, but the answer I'd like to focus on is: intimacy.

The human desire for intimacy, for love, drives us to do things that we never thought we would. But why, and what does it mean to be intimate?

Being Intimate Means "In-to-Me-See"

One evening over dinner with a friend, we spoke about intimacy and what it means. She shared a cute little phrase with me to remind me of intimacy's true meaning. "It means ‘in-to-me-see,'" she said. Ah yes, it's a blending of our heart with another's, so we can "see into" who they really are, and they can "see into" us.

According to Dictionary.com, intimacy is defined as, "showing a close union or combination of particles or elements: an intimate mixture."

Being intimate involves the mixing of our life with another's, a mingling of souls, a sharing of hearts. This is something we all long for because it's how God made us. We were designed to connect.

Real Intimacy is More Than Sex

Maybe you are wondering about sex. Granted, sex is a part of intimate expression, but it is not intimacy.

In his book, Soul Cravings, Erwin Raphael McManus writes:

"Sex can be the most intimate and beautiful expression of love, but we are only lying to ourselves when we act as if sex is proof of love. Too many men demand sex as proof of love; too many women have given sex in hopes of love. We live in a world of users where we abuse each other to dull the pain of aloneness. We all long for intimacy, and physical contact can appear as intimacy, at least for a moment."

When Janet married Ryan, she was convinced that even though they were not emotionally close before getting married, that sex would change all that. After all, she'd seen the movies; she had watched television where two hearts blended into one once they became sexually involved. Sadly, she was heartbroken when the emotional connectedness she longed for didn't show up after she made it to bed.

Real intimacy is not found just by merging bodies in sex. When Jesus said, "and the two shall become one. . . " I can't help but think that He meant more than just the physical. After all, how many couples go to bed at night, share their bodies, but not their hearts? Undoubtedly, many of these people would say they are very lonely. Why? Because just as a garden hose is not the source of water, but only an expression, or vehicle for it, so sex is not the source of intimacy, but an outlet (or expression of) it. No matter how hard you try, if real emotional and spiritual intimacy does not exist before sex, it most certainly won't after.

Real Intimacy Makes Us Feel Known

Real intimacy makes us feel alive like we've been found, as if someone finally took the time to peer into the depths of our soul and really see us there. Until then, until we experience true intimacy, we will feel passed over and ignored, like someone is looking right through us.

Sadly, we can miss out on intimacy that can make us and another person feel known, when we predetermine what we think we should see when we examine their life, heart, personality and soul. When this happens, we will try to mold and make them into who we believe they should be. As a result, we are blinded to their good qualities and love and intimacy are destroyed.

Many years ago, when I dated a young man, my mentor told me, "Shana, if you focus on all that he is not, you'll miss what he is." I've since learned that when we ignore another person's beauty and all that God made them to be, intimacy is lost. Why? Because intimacy flows out of feeling wholly accepted just the way we are.

Real Intimacy Begins With You

Perhaps you are wondering how you can build an intimate relationship. In addition to accepting another person just how they are, (Note: This doesn't mean accepting any form of abuse), real intimacy can only begin once you know yourself. Since intimacy means "in-to-me-see," how can anyone "see into" you and who you are, your fears, dreams, hopes and desires unless you know who you are and are willing to allow someone in? Experiencing true intimacy begins with being connected to your own heart.

Granted, sharing who we are with others is often not easy. All love is a risk. I admit, it can be uncomfortable exposing the deepest parts of ourselves. Thankfully, you don't have to do it all at once because developing intimacy is like peeling an onion—it can happen just a little at a time while trust is developed.

Intimacy With God is Real and Rewarding

Because God made us, He intimately knows us better than anyone can. For this reason, He can make us feel known in a way that no one on earth is able; and in this we can experience intimacy in an indescribable way. Intimacy with God through His Son Jesus has been the most rewarding and life-changing thing I have ever experienced.

My prayer is that you will first experience the joy that comes from having an intimate relationship with God and that out of that love you have experienced with Him, that you will find intimacy with a special someone who will make the load of walking the earth a little lighter.

Learn about the birth process- unexpected pregnancy

2011-05-07T10:07:00.001-06:00

The prospect of giving birth can be daunting, and you may be tempted to put it all out of your mind until it happens. But Glade Curtis, advises "In my experience, women who learn about birth ahead of time are more active participants in their own birth process, which leads to better outcomes," he says.

Consider taking a birth class, in which you can learn about the stages of labor, options for pain management, breathing techniques, and medical equipment that may be used during your delivery. Class offerings vary, so survey the options in your community to find the one that most appeals to you. It's a good idea to start looking into classes mid-pregnancy to make sure you get one you like – and have time to take it!

Learn about your options for labor, birth, and after, and make your wishes clear.

You can also learn about birth by watching videos from our library here.

While learning about the ins and outs of delivering a baby is important preparation, it doesn't give you ultimate control over your own labor.

"There are so many twists and turns that labor can take, and no one can predict how it will go," says Dianne Randall, a childbirth and lactation educator at a Hospital for Women and Newborns in San Diego. "The more you understand and accept the unpredictability, the lovelier your birth can be."

Instead of focusing on "the perfect birth," build your knowledge of different labor outcomes and decide how you'd want to deal with the various possibilities. You can learn about your options for labor positions, pain medication, how your baby is cared for after delivery, and more.

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Know what to do when labor starts- unplanned pregnancy

2011-05-06T10:10:00.000-06:00

Long before the first contractions hit, you'll want a firm plan for who to call, where to go, and when.

Your doctor or midwife should give you a clear set of guidelines on what to do when you go into labor, like when to call and when to head for the hospital or birth center. Decide who will take you there, and have a few back-up folks lined up to help if you need it. Know the route you'll take – this may sound silly, but it will be one fewer thing to think about. This includes learning where to park and which entrance to use when it's time to check yourself in.

You can get a handle on these logistics by taking a tour of your hospital or birth center. On the tour, you'll also learn about basic policies and see the labor rooms and nursery.

If you can, register for the delivery ahead of time and get the paperwork out of the way. When labor rolls around, you'll be able to bypass the bureaucracy and breeze – er, waddle – right in.

Pack your bag a few weeks before your due date

The last thing you'll want to worry about when labor starts is whether you have a toothbrush packed. Ease your mind by getting your bag together a few weeks before your due date. Refer to our comprehensive packing list for the hospital or birth center or, if you know you're having a c-section.

In addition to the essentials, think about personal items that can make your hospital stay more comfortable. I bought nice slippers so I could feel good walking around the hospital, and I also brought my robe when I had my children.

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Adoption Music Video

2011-05-05T11:25:00.001-06:00

Every adoption is its own unique story. Here at the Christian Child Placement Service (CCPS) we tailor make adoption plans for birth parents and adoptive families so they can have their unique adoption story.

An expectant parent considering an adoption plan and adoptive families have rights, and CCPS is pleased to advocate for each individual during and after the adoption process so their tailor made adoption plan can be fulfilled.

An expectant mother with an unplanned pregnancy who would like help and support can contact us anytime day or night. We provide information on all options with an unexpected pregnancy and all of our adoption services for birth parents are free.

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Marriage & Relationships - Interpersonal Red Flags

2011-05-04T11:55:00.000-06:00

Non-Affectionate

This is not the problem for most couples. Often there's a need to restrain the passions that run so strong at this point in a relationship. Setting the flames of romance aside for a moment, is your friend comfortable with giving and receiving affection? Does he/she show appropriate affection to friends, parents, siblings, etc? If two people are less inclined toward affection, maybe neither will miss it. But affection is a part of the way our Creator wired us. Will your friend be able to show affection to your children? Is it uncomfortable for your friend because affection was never received growing up? The affectionate-resistant person would be wise to explore the reasons that touch is so uncomfortable.

Avoids Conflict

Some people just don't want to deal with conflict of any size, shape, or variety. When tension is present, withdrawal or denial serve to gloss over the problem allowing it to be avoided for another day. Obviously, the problem gets bigger with every effort to sweep things under the rug. How does your friend deal with conflict? Does the problem get avoided or minimized?

Conflict is inevitable because we're human. Whether you realize it or not, there's conflict in your relationship even this side of marriage. You might ask your friend the question, "If I have a concern, how can I bring it up in a way that you'll be able to hear me?" Your friend might say, "I don't want to hear it." That should be a pretty obvious red flag for you. Right now your conflicts might be fairly small, but marriage will change that, there's more at stake. If you don't develop a healthy pattern now, it won't get any better in marriage.

Fears Commitment

We might presume that if the person we would like to commit to isn't quite as interested, it must be a fear of commitment. That's not always the case. Since marriage is such an important decision, getting to know a person well makes a lot of sense. And there's no substitute for time.

Yet there are times when a person sends mixed messages, or struggles to commit due to a fear of intimacy. "When you find out who I really am, will you still accept me?" It seems like she's interested, then it doesn't. He appears to want to move forward in the relationship, but then he pulls back. This hot and cold pattern can go on for years. And even if one makes it to the altar, if the issue isn't resolved, it can still cause chaos and insecurity in a marriage. Do you see a pattern of consistency in your friend's commitments in general? Without the ability to commit, marriage is like the sands of an hourglass just waiting to run out.

Isolated from Family and Friends

Does your friend interact with family and friends? How healthy are those relationships? Though we have no control over our family members, family interactions tell us a lot about a person. That doesn't mean our friend will always end up like Mom or Dad, but it doesn't mean one will necessarily end up differently either. If we don't have the ability to pick our family, we do when it comes to our friendships.

Has your friend kept you away from her family? Does he avoid introducing you to his friends? If so, what's the reason? Are there some issues that are being kept from you? Sometimes those boundaries may be necessary, but interacting with a partner's family and friends will provide valuable information for your decisions about the relationship.

Emotionally Stuck at Home

Has your friend been able to leave home emotionally? I'm not saying she shouldn't love her parents, or that he shouldn't respect his folks. Honoring one's parents is a lifetime responsibility. But honoring them is not about obeying them now that you are an adult.

Genesis 2:24 states, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." When a man or woman doesn't leave home emotionally, heartache invariably results. I've talked with countless couples who've experienced this betrayal from a spouse. People may still be seeking parental approval that they didn't receive as a child. A man may still be controlled by his mother, but anything that even hints of control by his wife will be viewed as such. Can your friend set boundaries and say "no" to his parents when needed? Can your friend tell her parents when she disagrees with them?

Distrusting

No matter what someone does, including yourself, does your friend always second-guess the motivation? If you give your friend a gift, does the question reverberate, "What does he/she want?" Granted, our motivations aren't as pure as the driven snow, but with time one's constant questioning will drive a wedge into any relationship.

Distrust often develops as a self protective measure when people were not trustworthy in one's life. "I can be fooled once, but I won't be fooled anymore," may be the mindset. Again, hurt and pain likely exist behind the wall; and without help, the distrust will likely creep into every crevasse of the relationship. Can people be too trusting? Yes, absolutely, and that's a problem of a different kind. But without trust, marriage becomes a daily witness stand. Over time, the distrust will likely increase.

Dependent

It may be hard to imagine, but some people get married so that they can have someone else tell them what to do. They may fear making mistakes, lack self confidence, or want a "parent" to direct or blame their lives upon. It can look a lot like submission, but it's not.

You may see it in the amount of time a friend wants to spend with you. Who could argue against a couple sharing quality time? Every counselor knows the importance of that! But when your friend wants to spend every waking moment together, you'll likely feel suffocated before very long. It can feel flattering at first, but be careful of anything that tends to get out of balance!
2011 Focus on the Family
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/preparing_for_marriage/red-flags-in-a-relationship/interpersonal-red-flags.aspx

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Marriage & Relationships - Character Red Flags

2011-04-29T14:52:00.000-06:00

Character Red Flags:
Controlling

Your friend can manipulate in many ways: guilt-inducement, threats of abandoning you, threats of self-harm, yelling, physical aggression, isolating you, pouting, interrogating you, etc. It may be obvious; it may be much more subtle. You might be told that it's really love, but deep down you know that's not the truth. If you see glimpses of controlling actions now, it's fair to say they will likely increase after marriage.

Christian men can hide their control behind headship. Yes, the Bible does speak to the place of headship in a husband (Eph. 5:23), but it's not about domination or manipulation. Jesus is given as the model for headship, the one who came not to be served, but to give his life for you and me. Headship has more to do with servanthood than with being "in charge." It's more about his responsibility before God to encourage the relationship positively than about him demanding his own way. The mutual submission that is stated in Ephesians 5:21 provide a safeguard against marital headship from being used as a club.

Is she able to submit to a husband, or does life simply need to go her way? When a woman has experienced over-control, abuse, or harshness in her years growing up, submission may not come easily. Even when headship is carried out in a loving balanced fashion, she may fear that it will turn into domination. There may still be some wounds that need to be addressed.

Dishonest

"I'm sure she was just stretching the facts a little bit." "He lied to me so that I wouldn't be hurt." It's easy to minimize or overlook instances of dishonesty in a relationship. But lying is often a pattern that pulls the rug out from under a marriage. If you can't trust a person's words, what can you trust about them? Lies that we're aware of are often the tip of the iceberg. We want to trust our friend. But when we find an instance of dishonesty, it causes us to wonder what else has been stretched or distorted

"Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment." Proverbs 12:19. What greater picture of the outcome of honesty can we find? Like most sin, lying has momentary purpose, but it leads to destruction. Does your friend have a reputation that his/her words can be trusted? Is truth compromised for gain, impact, or convenience?

Addiction Issues

"She doesn't drink like that too often." "Oh, he told me he's not going to look at pornography anymore." When we want a relationship to work, it's easy for us to rationalize away the red flags. Chemical dependency, sexual addictions, food addictions, etc. will gnaw at the very fabric of a marriage. If you're seeing the problem now, don't simply accept good intentions; the addiction will likely intensify. Your friend likely needs help physically, emotionally, and spiritually to experience sobriety in whatever arena of struggle. People can often "white knuckle" an addiction for a period of time, but when stress, frustration, hurts, and fatigue set in, it's easy to return to old patterns. In most instances, the addiction is not primarily about the "substance," whatever that may be, but about the pain underneath that needs to be addressed.

There's no guarantee that a person will not return to a former addiction, but if there is at least a year of consistent sobriety, chances diminish significantly. Again, the difficult question remains; if I were not saying that something needs to be done about this addiction, would my friend be pursuing help?

Inability to Apologize

We all mess up, no one is exempt. How does your friend admit when wrong? Or should I ask, does your friend acknowledge his/her mistakes? We don't want to be wrong, but dealing with it when we are goes a long way towards establishing a healthy marriage.

People may tend to struggle more with admitting mistakes when they've grown up around critical people. For some, Paul's words in II Corinthians 12: 10, "For when I am weak then I am strong," is experienced as, "For when I am weak then I am worthless."

Writing out an apology may be easier than saying it. Practicing with a small matter may make it easier when the offense has a greater emotional impact. But saying "I'm sorry" needs to happen for a relationship to thrive.

Unwilling to Get Help

If your friend is not willing to go to counseling if you marry and can't resolve an issue together, don't marry him/her. I know it may sound self serving since I'm a marriage and family therapist, but it's true. It's not merely about one's willingness to meet with a counselor or pastor; it's about one's willingness to grow, to be open, and to learn. A person might agree to it now, but conveniently has a change of mind after the "I do's."

There are often two reasons why people will avoid counseling. One, they know at a deeper level that the way they are approaching life and the relationship is not healthy. If it stays an issue just between the couple, one may succeed at convincing the other that there really are no problems, or if there is, the problem is the partner's. On the other hand, if they meet with an objective counselor, it's going to be a lot tougher to keep an unhealthy perspective alive. Secondly, a person may know that there's pain that needs to be faced, but it may scare the person half to death to do so. "If I meet with a counselor, I'll probably have to face some pains I've successfully avoided until now." Of course the price of not facing the pain is a lot more costly than facing it.

What current evidence would lead you to believe that your friend would be willing to get help when married? Is he open to learn from others, or does he know it all? Does she have a humble attitude, or is there arrogance in her tone and words?
2011 Focus on the Family.
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/preparing_for_marriage/red-flags-in-a-relationship/character-red-flags.aspx

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Unexpected Pregnancy & Prenatal Vitamins

2011-04-28T15:13:00.002-06:00

Are prenatal vitamins really necessary?

Yes. It's hard to get all the nutrients you and your baby need, even if your diet is close to perfect and you eat a broad range of foods, including meat, dairy products, fruits, vegetables, grains, and legumes.

Most women can benefit from taking a prenatal vitamin and mineral supplement. Think of it as an insurance policy to make sure you're getting the right amount of certain crucial nutrients during pregnancy. If you do not provide your body the nutrients it needs to develop the baby, then your body will take your nutrients needed to maintain your health and give it to the baby.

Taking a prenatal vitamin is even more important for women with certain diets and dietary restrictions, health issues, or pregnancy complications. This includes women who:

•Are vegetarians or vegans
•Are lactose-intolerant or have other food intolerances
•Smoke or abuse other substances
•Have certain blood disorders
•Have certain chronic diseases
•Have had gastric bypass surgery
•Are having twins or higher multiples

What's in a prenatal supplement that I can't get from food?

If you're a stickler for nutrition, you may already be doing a pretty good job of getting what you need. But three crucial nutrients, folic acid and iron, are always included in prenatal vitamins because most pregnant women don't get enough of them from food alone:

Folic acid

Getting enough of this B vitamin can reduce your baby's risk of neural tube defects such as spina bifida and anencephaly by 50 to 70 percent. Folic acid may also reduce the risk of other defects, such as cleft lip, cleft palate, and certain heart defects. Taking folic acid may even lower your risk of preeclampsia.

Your body absorbs the synthetic version of folic acid better than the natural one found in food, so even if you eat a balanced diet, a supplement is strongly recommended.

Iron

Most moms-to-be don't get enough of this mineral in their diet to meet their body's increased need during pregnancy, which can lead to iron-deficiency anemia. Avoiding iron-deficiency anemia can cut your risk of preterm delivery, low birth weight, and infant mortality.

Omega-3

If a pregnant woman would like the benefits of omega-3 for their unborn baby but does not want to eat fish taking omega-3 supplements while pregnant is a great option.

Additionally taking omega-3 supplements while pregnant can aid in the child being less hyperactive while growing up. Also a child who is hyperactive who takes a DHA/omega-3 supplement will likely receive benefits from the DHA/omega-3 supplement, relieving some of the hyperactivity.

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Marriage & Relationships - Emotional Red Flags

2011-04-27T09:54:00.000-06:00

Emotional Red Flags
Angry

I'm not talking about one's ability to experience the feeling of anger; all of us should be able to identify that God-given emotion in our lives. I'm talking primarily about frozen anger- resentment. When we hold on to anger and don't address it, bad things often happen. There may be issues about unforgiveness in the person's life. Often, underlying anger is fear, hurt, or both. Metaphorically, the clenched fist feels a whole lot safer than the more vulnerable open palm.

It can also relate to the frequency and intensity of how anger is expressed. Proverbs 22:24 says, "Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered." Is it really stretching this verse to say, don't marry a hot-tempered person? I don't think so. "But he's got a good reason to be angry!" "You don't know what she's been through!" There are a lot of legitimate reasons people may struggle with anger, but marrying into it is like walking into a hornet's nest.

Men tend to have a tougher challenge facing their anger. They may either ignore it, denying its there, or they may explode. Ladies, seeing how he resolves his anger will be the difference between a red flag and a green light in your relationship.

There is no place for physical control or violence in a relationship! It is a major red flag that needs swift action like ending the relationship! Could someone get help for their violent ways? Yes, but you would need strong evidence that it has been thoroughly dealt with spiritually, emotionally, and with a significant time of violence-free living. Your friend getting help while remaining in the relationship runs the risk of pseudo recovery.

Lack of Self Control

If a person is merely the pursuer of one's latest desire or emotional experience, life will be interesting, to say the least. Does your friend follow through on commitments and plans? Does he lack the initiative to find and hold a job? Has she gotten into debt because of impulse spending? Have you looked at each other's credit histories? Does he lack control of his passions?

When a person's emotional state rides like a rollercoaster, there may be bio-chemical issues involved which may need to be evaluated by a doctor or psychiatrist. If that's the case, what changes will proper medication produce? How likely is the person to stay on the medication over time? There may be a legitimate explanation for one's actions, but those actions still need to be lived with if two marry. And if the behavior persists you have to decide if you can deal with that for a lifetime.

Self-Absorbed

How much of your friend's life revolves around himself? Does she have a very narrow flexibility quotient- is there only a thin range of your behaviors that are acceptable in her thinking? Does she need to get what she wants even when it inconveniences others? When the pursuit of a relationship is in full gear, it's easy to think we could live blissfully seeking our friend's interests into the sunset. If that doesn't wear off before marriage, you can count on it doing so after the vows have been exchanged.

You might think that you are acting selfishly when you want your friend to meet your needs. Look for balance. Philippians 2:4 says, "Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interest of others." It's a good thing to want your friend to show interest in your needs as well as those of others. We often get an accurate sense of a person's ability to sacrifice not by their response to a romantic relationship, but by one's reaction to others in need. Are you willing to be the tag along to your friend's self indulgence? I hope not.

What amount of energy does your friend give to appearance? I'm not saying there's anything wrong with working out or dying your hair. Some need to give more attention to their appearance. But is it in balance? Does it keep a person from serving others? Does it communicate a narcissistic tendency? Sometimes it's difficult to see because we're attracted to the results. Yet over time, the downside of self absorption will become more negatively evident and destructive to the relationship. Does your friend have a humble heart?

Victim Perspective

When a person struggles with distrust, one is only a step away from playing the role of the victim. We can call it by different names- hyper-sensitivity, self pity, critical, or martyrdom. The thread that connects these is a person's difficulty resolving pain and moving forward. Life is a series of whirlwinds that just don't seem to end. Other people or circumstances are perceived as the cause of undesirable events, and one is likely to blame just about every problem on just about everyone else. A person will take little responsibility for life's struggles. When married, it becomes very easy for a spouse to be blamed for one's lack of contentment.

Is there any truth to the person's perspective? Yes, probably a little. But when someone may not want to get past the pain, there's a good chance that they won't. And who ends up with the bull's eye on their chest? You do. In extreme cases, there may be a personality disorder that is involved that is pretty resistant to change. Does your friend own his shortcomings? Does she have a narrow band of acceptable behaviors for you? You may be able to put up with that for a while when the romantic feelings are sky high, but what happens when they're not?

It's easy to think that we can rescue the victim. That if we're able to express true love, godly love, that things will change. It's tempting, but it's a trap.
2011 Focus on the Family.
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/preparing_for_marriage/red-flags-in-a-relationship/emotional-red-flags.aspx

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Marriage & Relationships - Overview

2011-04-26T00:58:00.000-06:00

In a relationship?

Recently met someone who caught your interest?

Been dating for quite some time? You've identified the other person's strengths, but have also discovered some traits that leave you scratching your head.

In either case, you have probably found that many forces push you forward in your relationship.

Your own sense of loneliness and that God-given desire for connection can nudge you further in a relationship until the steps toward the altar just seem to get easier and easier. Let's say you're already in love. Talk about an influence that changes behavior! Few factors have more horse power than romance.

The forces that compel you to move forward are not out to destroy you. But with so many of them urging you toward marriage, it's wise to pause and ask yourself some questions that might prevent heartache down the road. You need to decide what to do with this relationship; no other person can make that decision for you. I've spoken with people who didn't take the time to think through their relationship. They acted solely on their feelings and tied the knot. Once married, they wanted to be faithful to that covenant, but they experienced difficulties that could have been avoided.

Once a couple has committed at the altar to be faithful "till death us do part," that is indeed the true path of faithfulness; facing pain can certainly refine us, but we don't get extra credit for walking into it, especially when it can be avoided. But how would their lives have turned out had they taken the time to explore the red flags that were at least partially visible?

Marriage is great; it's a fantastic gift from God. My hope is that many of you do move forward and make that promise for life. But I've heard it said: "I'd rather be single and wish I were married, than married and wish I were single." It's one thing to be lonely alone, it's an even more distressing experience to be with someone and still be lonely. Now is the time to look carefully at who you will marry – not after rings are exchanged! Even if you're in a great relationship, asking yourself the tough questions now will only create a greater level of confidence and appreciation if you do decide to marry.

Every potential mate has a deficiency. It's called sin. Romans 3:10 says, "There is no one righteous, not even one." Every single romantic relationship has been impacted by the foolishness of two rebellious hearts! If you're looking for the perfect mate, stop. You won't find him. She doesn't exist.

Some will say, "Since no one's perfect, it really doesn't matter who I chose to marry. We're all flawed." Some will even take it a step further and say, "It's about being the right person, not finding the right person." Yes, there's some truth there, but the Bible makes distinctions between the foolish and the wise. Though we all are a mixture of both, there are some qualitative differences between people. It does matter who you marry!

When we're excited about a relationship, it's easy to overlook the red flags that at least need to be explored. We want to be married; this special person makes us feel wonderful (at least most of the time). We know some things about this person, but we sometimes fill in the gaps with what we want him or her to be like. Yet we often don't fill them in accurately. As you continue to read posts, please do so with an open mind. You just might find that some of the red flags actually relate to you, not your significant other.
2011 Focus on the Family.
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/preparing_for_marriage/red-flags-in-a-relationship.aspx

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Parenting Alone

2011-04-25T08:15:00.000-06:00

Could I handle being a single parent?

Will the baby’s father follow through with promises he made to me for financial support?

Will I be able to raise my child alone without degrading the father of the baby?

Will I financially be able to raise a child alone?

How will I finish my education and raise a baby?

Who will watch my baby when I go to work?

How will I feel when I have to give up my freedoms for the baby, will I resent the baby?

These may be questions a person facing parenting alone might ask. We would be glad to help anyone facing the possibility of parenting alone, sort through their questions and emotions so they can find the best solution for their unexpected situation.

e-mail: help@pregnantandalone.org
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Three Catagories to having a Successful Marriage

2011-04-23T17:44:00.000-06:00

#1 Emotional Health
Emotional Health Concerns:

Emotional Emptiness
Low Self-Esteem
Fear of Emotions
Character Disorders
Anger Mismanagement

Consistent Qualities of Emotionally Healthy People:

Not desperate to impress others
Do not need to be perfect
They are not hesitant about using professional resources
Don't judge worth on external factors
Overcome major problems with external solutions
Emphasize the spiritual dimension

#2 Commitment

Marriage is Hard Work
Be Active- Love! Honor! Cherish! Nourish! Action!

#3 Skill Building

Dream Together
Communicate at a deep level
Resolve conflict in a healthy way
Negotiate a mutually satisfying sexual relationship
Pursue Spirituality

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Adoption - Birth Parent Needs

2011-04-22T04:55:00.000-06:00

Physical Needs of a birth parent:

understand the adoption process
know the adoptive parents are healthy
know that the adoptive parents are "good" people
know that the adoptive parents are financially secure, have a home, education, carer
will or does the adoptee have siblings in the adoptive home
how will the extended family accept the adoptee
will one of the parents stay at home with the child
mother and father with a stable marriage
adoptive parents keeping their word about correspondence
confidentiality about adoptive placement
safe environment for the adoptee
they are in a safe environment themselves , so they are able to understand the adoption process without any threat to themselves.
they have their housing and food needs met so they are not worried about external issues and can focus on the best choice for them and the baby.

Emotional Needs of a birth parent:

know that the child will be told about the birth parent their whole life
the adoptee will be taught to love them, by their adoptive parents
the birth parents are making the adoptive placement decision on their own free will
know that the baby will have a better chance at a better life, and a stable home than they can provide at this time
understand that there has not been a cycle of abuse in the adoptive parents life
understand the grieving process they are likely to go through

Special Requests from birth parents:

want the child to be raised in a family from a particular religion
that the adoptive family has pets
same cultural background as the adoptee
child have own room
etc.

We provide options counseling on ALL options with an unplanned pregnancy; we provide free services for anyone in an unplanned pregnancy so they can make a fully informed decision about their unplanned pregnancy. If someone you know would like to talk about their options with a pregnancy and their needs at this time we are here to listen and help:

Christian Child Placement Service
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If I have an Abortion...

2011-04-21T09:14:00.001-06:00

Questions you may ask while considering an abortion:

Will I remember the date the child would have been born if I have an abortion?
How will I feel if I have an abortion but never have any other children?
What if I get pregnant again, would I get another abortion?
What does my partner think about considering an abortion?
Will I have to keep my abortion a secret from family and friends?
What does God think about me getting an abortion?

Finding yourself in an unplanned pregnancy and not knowing where to turn can be very scary and lonely. We are here to listen and help. We provide free services for anyone in an unplanned pregnancy so they can make a fully informed decision about their unplanned pregnancy.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
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Sanctus Real "Lead Me" - Passion, Intimacy, Commitment

2011-04-20T09:43:00.001-06:00

Commitment

Is the foundation to a relationship
It is the decision to love
It is the willful part of love

Passion

Biology part of love / relationship
Hormonal part of love / relationship

Intimacy

Emotional side of a relationship

What is your love style, to have a whole relationship each of these aspects is needed for it to be sucessful.

Two whole people are needed to make a whole relationship.

Needing help with an unexpected pregnancy that is causing relationship troubles, contact us we would be pleased to support you during this difficult time!

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Nutrition for Two- Pregnancy

2011-04-19T07:32:00.000-06:00

A pregnant woman's nutritional needs each day:

Fruits, 2 cups a day:
*Eat a variety of fruits
*1 cup of fruit or fruit juice
*or 1/2 cup dried fruit

Vegetables, 2 1/2 cups a day:
*Eat a variety of vegetables
*1 cup raw or cooked vegetables of juice
*of 2 cups raw leafy vegetables

Grains, 6 ounces a day:
*Choose whole grains (not refined grains)
*1 cup cereal or
*1/2 cup pasta, or rice

Meat & Beans, 5 1/2 ounces a day:
*Choose lean protein
*1 cup lean meat or
*1/4 beans or
*1/2 ounce nuts or
* 1 egg or
*tablespoon peanut butter

Milk, 3 cups a day:
*Choose low fat of fat free
*1 cup milk or
*8 ounces of yogurt or
*1 ounce cheese

Check with your doctor on the above information, these amounts are for an average pregnant woman. Check with your doctor to make sure your weight gain is on target.

Do not drink any amount of alcohol while pregnant.

Take a prenatal vitamin and folic acid every day in addition to eating a healthy diet. But don't eat too much at one time.

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Have you Bridged the Gender gap? - unexpected pregnancy -

2011-04-18T11:58:00.001-06:00

Men tend to want to:

Solve problems
Share information
Be admired
Share activities

Women tend to want to:

Improve the relationship
Connect with mate
Be desired
Be cherished

With these differences in mind can you say what you mean and understand what you hear?

Everyone needs to:

Be Genuine
Accept Others
Clarify what you say
Reflect back what others say

By being empathetic genuineness opens up the other person to be able to express themselves to the other person better.

The equation xyz will be able to be put the above into effect:
When you do x I feel y and that results in z.

If you are looking for someone to help you through an unexpected pregnancy we are here to help. We can help you understand where your relationship is at with your partner, and provide information for you about all of your options with your pregnancy.

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Preparing for Marriage- Unplanned Pregnancy

2011-04-16T00:20:00.000-06:00

To enter in a marriage and have it be successful each partner must have a positive self-conception.

Negative self-conception is sometimes revealed by unspoken rules that we may not even know that we have until our partner breaks the unspoken rule.

Four MYTHS that you may believe:

Each partner expects the same things from the marriage.
The good things in our marriage will just keep getting better and better.
All of the bad things in my life will go away because of marriage.
My spouse should complete me (make me whole).

Get yourself emotionally healthy before you get yourself married.

Two whole people = a whole marriage.

If you are considering entering a marriage relationship please seriously consider these concepts and thoughts. If you contemplating getting married because of an unplanned pregnancy these ideas should be looked at even closer. I do feel that a child receives a better well rounded up bringing by being parented by a mother and a father, but if the parents enter in a marriage without each of them becoming whole first the child will be exposed to a lot of emotional faults and turmoil by both parents.

Options to parenting unprepared include placing the child for adoption in a home with a mother and father, then later starting a family once emotional healing is reached. Placing the child in the care of a family member until able to parent. Voluntarily placing the child into a residential care program until home life is stable.

So many children end up being removed from their home and placed into state foster care because their parents were unprepared to parent and did not have the skills to parent them in a healthy way. Please consider all of your options before you choose what you want for your child.

Expectant parents with an unplanned pregnancy who would like help and support can contact us anytime day or night. We provide information on all options with an unexpected pregnancy and all of our adoption services for birth parents are free.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
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Abortion

2011-04-15T10:13:00.004-06:00

Abby Johnson shares how just before the end of her employment with Planned Parenthood she took part in an abortion of a 13 week old unborn baby. Abby stated that she could see on the ultrasound monitor a perfect profile of the 13 week old baby before the abortion. She stated that the baby was trying to get away from the abortion probe. Abby was told that the baby could not feel pain before 21 weeks gestation, but she realized that was not true when the baby was fighting for its life.

Abby stated as part of her job at Planned Parenthood she answered questions that the women had. She reported that many of the women that asked her questions, asked "Will my baby feel the abortion?" and she told them NO. Abby stated she was trained to say that the baby's don't feel the abortion by Planned Parenthood proving again that Planned Parenthood lies to women.

Every time an abortion occures a child dies and a mother is emotionally scared.

If every day, 3 jumbo jets crashed—killing all on board—it would still not equal the number of those killed by Planned Parenthood.

We provide options counseling on ALL of options with an unplanned pregnancy; we provide free services for anyone in an unplanned pregnancy so they can make a fully informed decision about their unplanned pregnancy.

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Physical Activities to Avoid During Pregnancy

2011-04-14T17:00:00.002-06:00

There are certain physical activities that you should not do while you are pregnant. Talk to your health care provider for a compleate list.

Avoid being active outside in hot weather
Avoid steam rooms, hot tubs, & saunas
Avoid certain yoga poses that have you flat on your back after 20 weeks
Avoid contact sports, football, boxing, and others that might injure you.
Avoid horseback riding
Avoid jumping activites that include tennis & basketball
Avoid activities that could cause you to fall like skating and skiing

An expectant mother with an unplanned pregnancy who would like help and support can contact us anytime day or night. We provide information on all options with an unexpected pregnancy and all of our adoption services for birth parents are free.

Christian Child Placement Service
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http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
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Getting Physically Active While Pregnant

2011-04-13T09:01:00.000-06:00

Get physically active for your health and the health of your baby by using these tips:

Go for a walk with your mate or friend
Find a prenatal yoga, water aerobics, or fitness class
Get an exercise video for pregnant women
Get up and move around at least once an hour if you sit in a chair most of the day
Get up and move during commercials when watching TV

Adjusting to Events Beyond your Control - Pregnant

2011-04-12T09:12:00.002-06:00

Are you going through something in life that you were not expecting to experience? Life sometimes brings us events that are outside of our control and we have the choice to let them overcome us or we can choose to overcome them. Below is an idea of how we can choose to adjust to events beyond our control.

Develop the habit of happiness:

Find the write attitude in life beyond what is happening around you
Learn to develop right attitudes in spite of the troubles in life
Learn to overcome self-pity and blaming others

Blame is a Toxin in life

Self-pity Sabotages positive outcomes in life

Take the habit of happiness into life rather than waiting for life to help you develop it.

If you would like someone to talk to about events in your life that are happening outside of your control we are here to listen with an empathetic, nonjudgmental ear, contact us today.

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Adoption Video 'One Less'

2011-04-11T12:02:00.004-06:00

½ a million children grow up in state run foster care in the United States because their parents are not prepared to parent, but still choose the Option of Parenting… therefore resulting in the removal of the child because of some type of abuse or neglect.

If you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy please learn about all of your options and become fully informed about the option you choose for your child. By getting education about your choice you could prevent another child being raised in foster care.

We would be pleased and honored to share information with you on all of your options with an unexpected pregnancy so you can make a fully informed decision about the best option for you and your child.

Christian Child Placement Service
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Postpartum Depression- Unplanned Pregnancy

2011-04-10T12:14:00.001-06:00

Most women who deliver a baby experience the "baby blues," (50%-80%).

If you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy it is likely that you will be included in those percentages.

A woman with the "baby blues" may:
*Cry more easily than usual
*Have trouble sleeping
*Feel irritable, sad and emotionally "on edge"

These symptoms may go away on their own within 2 weeks, and will probably not require medical treatment if the mother can still properly care for her baby.

IF the symptoms go on longer than 2 weeks the mother needs to visit her doctor, Post-partum Major Depression could develop. 10% to 20% of women who have given birth develop post-partum major depression, anytime after delivery.

Women who have a history of depression, have experienced post-partum depression before, have a lot of stress, or do not have support during and after the pregnancy are even more likely to develop post-partum major depression.

Symptoms of post-partum major depression include:
*Depressed mood
*Tearfulness
*Inability to enjoy pleasurable activities
*Trouble sleeping
*Fatigue
*Appetite problems
*Impaired concentration

Other symptoms include:
*Feelings of inadequacy as a parent
*Suicidal thoughts

This type of problem is a problem with brain chemistry, and is not the mothers fault. This is a serious problem and women with these symptoms should go to their doctor as soon as they can.

Post-partum major depression interferes with a mother's ability to care for her baby and can affect the baby's development, so it is important to get help. There are successful treatments available.

The birth of a baby can mess with a mothers emotions. Some emotions the mother will have include excitement, joy, fear, anxiety & depression. Depression after birth is not a weakness, especially if this pregnancy was not planned. Sometimes it is simply part of giving birth. If you are depressed treatment can help you manage your symptoms. If you are experiencing depression after a delivery and would like our assistance in finding help, just contact our agency, we are here to help!

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Falling in Love for all the Right Reasons

2011-04-09T11:47:00.000-06:00

How to know if the person you are dating is worth pursuing in 2 dates or less:

Make a list of 10 things your date MUST have
Make a list of 10 things that you CANNOT stand

Do your lists match up with your date?

To find out become a great listener, focus on something outside of yourself and then listen to the other person.

The most important single quality in your partner is emotional health. The emotional health of your partner needs to be healthy from the beginning of your relationship.

Does your date have an accurate and positive view of themselves? Are they in a good relationship with God?

Addictions, mental disorders, & mental disabilities equal relationship trouble.

Also in order for you to find a person you can fall in love with for all the right reasons you need to be emotionally healthy.

25% of marriages last and are happy
75% end in divorce

Your selection of your marriage partner by using these principals will decrease the divorce rate.

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Getting Fit for Two

2011-04-08T10:15:00.000-06:00

Talk to your health care provider first about the level of exercise that is safe for you, but most women should be physically active during pregnancy.

Regulat, moderate-intensity physical activity during pregnancy may:

Help you and the baby gain proper amount of weight
Reduce backaches, leg cramps, swelling
Reduce your risk of gestational diabetes
Improve your mood and energy level
Help you recover from delivery and return to a healthy weight faster

Safety Precautions to follow while being active while pregnant:

Choose walking, water aerobics, swimming, yoga moderate activities
When you start to feel tired stop the activity
Drink plenty of water
Don't get overheated
Stop activity if you become dizzy, have a hard time breathing, pain in back, swelling, numbness, become sick to stomach, high heart rate or uneven rate.

Unexpected Pregnancy: Tenth Avenue North - "You Are More"

2011-04-07T08:41:00.000-06:00

"You Are More" by Tenth Avenue North

There's a girl in the corner
With tear stains on her eyes
From the places she's wandered
And the shame she can't hide

She says, "How did I get here?
I'm not who I once was
And I'm crippled by the fear
That I've fallen too far to love"

But don't you know who you are?
What's been done for you?
Yeah don't you know who you are

You are more than the choices that you've made
You are more than the sum of your past mistakes
You are more than the problems you create

You've been remade

Well she tries to believe it
That she's been given new life
But she can't shake the feeling
That it's not true tonight

She knows all the answers
And she's rehearsed all the lines
And so she'll try to do better
But then she's too weak to try

But don't you know who you are?

You are more than the choices that you've made
You are more than the sum of your past mistakes
You are more than the problems you create
You've been remade

You are more than the choices that you've made
You are more than the sum of your past mistakes
You are more than the problems you create
You've been remade

'Cause this is not about what you've done
But what's been done for you
This is not about where you've been
But where your brokenness brings you to

This is not about what you feel
But what He felt to forgive you
And what He felt to make you loved

You are more than the choices that you've made
You are more than the sum of your past mistakes
You are more than the problems you create
You've been remade

You've been remade

An expectant mother with an unplanned pregnancy who would like help and support can contact us anytime day or night. We provide information on all options with an unexpected pregnancy and all of our adoption services for birth parents are free.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

Paternity Fear Expectant Fathers Face

2011-04-06T08:24:00.000-06:00

About half of new and expectant dads admit they have thoughts that they are not really the baby's father. They don't think that their partner had an affair, but they are not confident that they are the father. On a logical level, it's a disconnect, but on an emotional level something else is going on. He's dwelling on his own inadequacies: It is too monumental, too big for them to wrap their head around being apart of the creation of a life.

An expectant father with an unplanned pregnancy who would like help and support can contact us anytime day or night. We provide information on all options with an unexpected pregnancy and all of our adoption services for birth parents are free.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

Conversations About Intimacy/Sex (Part 2)

2011-04-05T09:34:00.001-06:00

Authors Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus offer insights from their book Intimate Issues: 21 Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex. Sex is often a taboo topic so problems with intimacy don't get addressed a lot of times. Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus have answers. Listen to these authors on the topic of Sex and Intimacy:

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.aspx?ID={D42A9995-56E1-425A-A4DB-F6E7302BF807}

Christian Child Placement Service
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Conversations About Intimacy/Sex

2011-04-04T16:59:00.001-06:00

Many women have a distorted view of sex. Some think sex is dirty because that's what they learned as children, while others believe sex is primarily about satisfying their husband's needs. Still other women carry emotional baggage from the past as a result of being sexually abused or engaging in sex outside of marriage. Authors Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus want to help women gain a healthy and biblical perspective on sex:
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/radio.aspx?ID={DC0C2C62-8519-42E7-83CA-360DFD2FA085}

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

Quality New Mexico Adoption Agency

2011-04-01T14:17:00.003-06:00

Every adoption is its own unique story. Here at the Christian Child Placement Service (CCPS) we tailor make adoption plans for birth parents and adoptive families so they can have their unique adoption story.

There are many reasons why the birth parents choose to place their children for adoption, but what is consistent is that they want the very best for their children, a mother and a father, and feel that adoption can provide it. They entrust the raising of their children to loving adoptive parents because they cannot parent their child at this time. CCPS has been assisting birth parents and bringing families together through infant adoption for more than 30 years.

An expectant parent considering an adoption plan and adoptive families have rights, and CCPS is pleased to advocate for each individual during and after the adoption process so their tailor made adoption plan can be fulfilled.

An expectant mother with an unplanned pregnancy who would like help and support can contact us anytime day or night. We provide information on all options with an unexpected pregnancy and all of our adoption services for birth parents are free.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

Drinking during pregnancy linked to behavior problems in teens

2011-03-30T09:21:00.000-06:00

Prenatal alcohol exposure linked to behavior problems in teens -- Teens whose mothers drank alcohol regularly throughout the first trimester of pregnancy have three times increased risk of developing severe behavior problems.

Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine and Medical Center analyzed data collected from 592 children and their mothers. The mothers were evaluated when four and seven months pregnant and shortly after childbirth and then, along with their children, when the children were 8 months old, 18 months old and 3, 6, 10, 14 and 16 years old.

The quantity, frequency and patterns of alcohol use -- including beer, wine and liquor -- by the women during pregnancy were summarized as average daily alcohol consumption.

When the children were 16 years old, those whose mothers had consumed, on average, one or more alcoholic drinks a day in the first trimester of pregnancy were three times more likely to meet the criteria for conduct disorder than were teens whose mothers had consumed less than one drink a day or no alcohol at all, the investigators found.

Conduct disorder refers to a pattern of serious behavior problems that last for more than a year and includes, according to the researchers, such things as property destruction, aggression toward people and animals, dishonesty or theft, and serious rule violations.

The study is published in the March issue of the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry.

Information from:
http://www.babycenter.com/204_prenatal-alcohol-exposure-linked-to-behavior-problems-in-tee_10349076.bc

If someone you know needs help to stop drinking call today! You can call this agency, your doctor, an alcohol treatment program, social worker, pastor, or a clinic. There are many people and agencies that want to help!

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

Licensed Adoption Agency New Mexico

2011-03-29T12:52:00.000-06:00

Considering adoption is a big decision, it takes a tremendous amount of unselfish love. Choosing an agency to work with while considering adoption is vital. There are large out of state facilitators and for profit agencies that do not have birth parents interests in mind. Ultimately they are not considering the current emotional needs of the birthparents, and continued emotional needs in the long run after the birth of the child.

We here at the Christian Child Placement Service Adoption Agency care about people experiencing an unplanned pregnancy! We are local here in New Mexico and will support birth parents throughout the adoption process. We will help them look at the pros and cons of each of their options so they can choose what is best for them and their baby. We will support them throughout whatever decision they make.

We have approved adoptive families that live in New Mexico and that live out of state. So by choosing to work with our local licensed adoption agency that will support them, they can also choose a local family or a family from out of state depending on their desires. The key is that we are a local agency that will support them and enable them to follow through with their choice knowing they have continued support to achieve their goal with their pregnancy.

At the Christian Child Placement Service we know that choosing the best option with an unplanned pregnancy is a very difficult decision. We want to provide information on all of options so a fully informed decision can be made so birthparnts can decide what is the best option for their unexpected pregnancy.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
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unexpected pregnancy support; second-trimester

2011-03-26T21:19:00.001-06:00

First-trimester tasks, a helpful guide
Don't worry about checking off every item – just use this as a guide.

Activities for your second trimester (weeks 13-27)
Find a prenatal exercise class
Learn about second-trimester prenatal visits and tests.
Start shopping for maternity clothes
Start moisturizing your belly
Decide whether you'll find out the sex of your baby
Look into childbirth classes
Do some financial planning
Prepare your older children
Get your teeth cleaned
Start sleeping on your side
Check your rings for swelling
Avoid unsafe activities
Write a letter to your baby
Eat healthy
Drink water
Do some stretching
Sneak in a pregnancy power nap
Pack healthy snacks
Take a quick walk
Track your weight gain
Do something nice for yourself
Check in with a friend/caseworker
Know the signs of a pregnancy problem

Follow this link if you would like to read details about each of these tasks:

http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ultimate-pregnancy-to-do-list-second-trimester_10341208.bc

If you would like support during an unexpected pregnancy please contact us, we would be glad to inform you about all of your options with an unexpected pregnancy so you can make the best choice for you and your baby.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY)
text/call: 575-714-0246

Conversation every daughter wishes their dad would have:

2011-03-25T09:15:00.002-06:00

To hear more from Dennis Rainey:
http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.6235823/k.809F/FamilyLife_Today.htm

by Dennis Rainey

I was seated at my desk, barely able to concentrate. I shifted papers, opened drawers, glanced out the window. Shifted papers, opened drawers, glanced out the window. Shifted papers … I felt like I was expecting an important phone call and was just trying to do something, anything, productive while waiting. But it wasn't working.

Neither was I.

Finally, my executive assistant informed me that the young man I'd been expecting was waiting for me in the lobby.

Deep breath, Dennis. You're the adult here. You can do this. I was about to interview the first of many young men who wanted a date with one of my daughters.

I stood to my feet and walked across the room, still amazed at how nervous I was as I stepped into the lobby to meet Kevin—the only person in the building more anxious and ill at ease than I.

"Afternoon, Kevin, glad you could make it."

"Hello, Mr. Rainey."

"How about we get something from the Coke machine. I hear you're a Dr. Pepper man."

"Yes, sir."

Riding a very thin wave of forced, uncomfortable chitchat, I deposited enough quarters to dislodge a cold can for him and a Diet Coke for me. Then, not wanting to be the Ultimate Intimidator, I suggested we go outside and chat in the parking lot. That's where he showed me his motorcycle—which wasn't exactly how I wanted Ashley to go out on her first date!

I popped the tab on my soft drink and looked squarely into the same eyes that enjoyed looking at my 16-year-old daughter. We began with the basics. I asked him about school, his mom and dad and family, interests—just a general get-to-know-you type of conversation.

"God made men and women different"

"Kevin," I said, hoping I'd also remember the rest of the words I wanted to say, "God did a wonderful thing when he made women."

The color fell from his face. This was going to be worse than he had thought. I wondered if at any moment he might hop on that motorcycle and bolt!

I continued. "And, Kevin, God made men and women different. You've probably noticed some of those differences."

Kevin was getting paler by the minute, but he had the presence of mind to nod.

"Actually, God made us different so that men and women would be attracted to one another. Now, Kevin," I paused for dramatic effect, "you have probably noticed that God made Ashley quite attractive. She's a really cute girl. In fact, you've probably noticed that she has a cute figure."

This was less of a statement and more of a question. If Kevin said no, he and I would both know he was lying. If he said yes, however, he was admitting to the obvious: that he had the audacity to notice my daughter's figure!

After a brief pause, I spared him the agony and continued.

"I mean, you're a young man and Ashley is a young lady, and God made men and women to be attracted to one another. It's good." Kevin seemed to be relieved at my pronouncement. I went on.

"And, Kevin, I just want you to know that I am a man and I understand this attraction. I was once a teenage boy, and I know what teenage boys think about. I've even read some research on this, and the studies show that teenage boys think about sex every seven seconds."

At this point Kevin's eyes darted, wondering where I was going next.

"And, Kevin, you and I both know those teenage boys were lying about the other six seconds."

At this point Kevin's eyes began to dilate! There was no dodging this one. "Yes, sir," he said, with a nervous little laugh.

"Are we communicating?"

"Kevin, I don't know how to put this any plainer: I want you to keep your lips and hands off my daughter. And I'm going to help you with that. Because whether I see you at the door after your first date with Ashley—or after your fiftieth date—you can expect me to ask you, 'Kevin, are you dealing uprightly with my daughter?' And I want you to know what I mean when I ask you that question. Are we communicating, Kevin?"

"Yes, sir." His eyes were fully dilated at this point.

I continued. "Kevin, more than likely Ashley is going to be somebody's wife someday. And I don't want you touching her body. Would you want someone touching your wife's body?"

"No, sir."

"That's what I thought. So you and I, we know what we're talking about when I ask you to be accountable for protecting the emotional and moral purity of my daughter, right?"

He nodded enough to let me know my vocabulary was in his dictionary.

"And, Kevin, I want you also to take this challenge: If God ever gives you the privilege of being a husband and a dad, especially if He gives you girls, I want you to take your role so seriously with them that you'll talk to your daughters' dates the way I've talked with you today. Will you promise me that?"

"Yes, sir."

At that point both Kevin and I were relieved that the conversation was over. I grinned and patted him on the back. I told him I was proud of him for coming to talk to me and allowing me to interact with him around such important issues.

As he was putting his helmet on, he answered one last question by assuring me he'd take Ashley out in a car!

Young men need to be challenged

That was it. Took maybe 20 minutes.

And over the years, I did a version of this same thing dozens of times as I interviewed young men who wanted to date my four daughters.

I've learned a lot as I've gone through this. I've learned that there are some very specific things I need to know about each young man, and I try to tailor each of these little talks to the particular situation and the young man I'm dealing with.

In the process, I've met some fine maturing men and seen some interesting things happen along the way. In one case, another dad came with his son to sit in on the interview, to observe and be trained. I've also had younger brothers sit in (probably just to see their big brother squirm).

I even had one young man come to me and say, "Mr. Rainey, I'm not interested in asking any of your daughters out on a date, but I was wondering, would you be willing to take me through the interview?" I did. He wanted to go through it so he would know what I said. It reminded me that young men today yearn for older men to enter their worlds, talk straight with them about how to treat a young lady, and call them to a high standard.

Guys, I can't tell you how strongly I feel about this. The statistics don't lie. Despite more than a decade of "Just Say No" and countless sermons on "Love, Sex, and Dating," the sexual conduct of Christian youth growing up in Christian youth groups, worshiping to Christian music, and sitting in Christian Bible studies, is virtually no different than the sexual conduct of any other teenager.

These young men who like what they see in our daughters enough to want to spend time alone with them need us to hold them accountable and call them to restrain their sexual passions. They need older men, dads, to challenge them to protect our daughters and do what it takes to guard their moral purity.

Let's do it.

Adapted from Interviewing Your Daughter's Date by Dennis Rainey, 2007.

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http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
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pregnancy support, unwanted pregnancy

2011-03-24T14:55:00.000-06:00

We provide information on all of your options with an unexpected pregnancy so you can make the decision about what option is right for you and your baby.

Our unplanned pregnancy services are all Free:

•pregnancy tests
•pregnancy options counseling
•truthful abortion information
•pregnancy information
•baby/fetal development information
•sexually transmitted disease (STD) information
•adoption information
•parenting information
•and much more

We are also an Adoption Agency and can provide information about the Adoption Option.

If you would like to learn more about any of our FREE services please contact:

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
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14 and pregnant adoption

2011-03-23T10:53:00.000-06:00

Q: How can adoption be a good thing when I will be losing a child?
A: If you are not ready to be a parent, placing a child for adoption is a great solution. Abortion is not giving a child a chance at life, adoption not only gives life to a child, but also allows the child to have a wonderful life with a loving family.

Q: How much will adoption cost me?
A: Adoption is free to the birth family. The adoptive family pays for the counseling you will receive and the legal aspects of the adoption.

Q: Who will be the parents of my child, if I choose adoption for him or her?
A. When birth parents work with Christian Child Placement Service, they may choose the adoptive parents for their child, by looking at our books of families. All of our adoptive parents are Christians.

Q: Will I ever know how my baby is doing after birth?
A: Continued contact is available, depending on the birth family's wishes. Many birth families receive pictures and letters from the adoptive families as the child grows.

Q: How much will the child know about me?
A: In New Mexico, the adoptive parents must have a complete medical background on the child and the birth parents. The birth parents may choose what other information they would like the child to have.

Q: What rights does the birth father have?
A: Both birth parents have rights in New Mexico. If you disagree about adoption or you no longer have a relationship with each other, the agency will work with the birth father to terminate his rights, or work with the courts to determine if his rights can be terminated.

Q: Where do I live while I am pregnant?
A: Christian Child Placement Service will be able to help you complete an adoption plan in your own home, or you may want to choose to move to our on campus housing.

Q: How can I be sure my child will not be neglected or abused?
A: All adoptive families are inspected to ensure they meet the standards of the agency, the birth parents and the law, through references, criminal backgrounds and a home investigation by the agency.

If you are thinking about adoption and want the security and protection of working with an adoption agency contact us we will support you during this time, and will help you make a tailor-made adoption plan.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

Christian Adoption Agency

2011-03-22T09:31:00.002-06:00

Why Use our Christian Adoption Agency?
Know of someone who recently learned of an unplanned pregnancy? Do they feel overwhelmed and confused? Sometimes talking to someone is helpful. That is what Christian Child Placement Service is about: being there for people in an unplanned pregnancy. Christian Child Placement Service a licensed adoption agency in the state of New Mexico. We provide quality, caring services to many women during their unplanned pregnancies. We will help birth parents look at all their options and carefully consider what is the best plan for both them and their unborn child.

What if I don't live in New Mexico?
If birth mothers want to work with us, and live out of state, they may stay in our on campus housing.

If you choose to stay in your own home, for the duration of your pregnancy, and you live in another state, we will find a counselor near you to help you with the adoption process.

Counseling:
If you choose to place your child for adoption, we will help you prepare for the emotions of adoption and the grieving process, as well as complete the legal work of adoption.

Counseling is available to our pregnant clients' parents and family members, as this can be an emotional time for them too. We are available to talk with the father of the child and his parents as well.

We will travel to you in New Mexico, or you may come to our offices for counseling in Portales, New Mexico.

Adoption is a loving and honorable choice for many women. You are not alone as you face this difficult decision.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

in college pregnant adoption

2011-03-21T16:39:00.003-06:00

Christian Child Placement Service a licensed adoption agency in the state of New Mexico. We are able to provide adoption services to women in unplanned pregnancies and services to Christian couples hoping to adopt.

•Adoption is a gift of a child to another family.
•All families applying through Christian Child Placement Service are practicing Christians. It is their goal in life to raise their children to know Jesus Christ.
•Adoption is a good choice for a woman who is not able to parent her child at this time.
•Some women choose adoption for their children because they would prefer their child to be raised in home with a mother and father.
•Some women choose adoption for their children because of the poor relationship between she and the father of her unborn child.
•The staff at Christian Child Placement Service creates the adoption process according to the birth mother's wishes.
•Every adoption is unique.
•God uses adoption to accomplish His blessings. Moses was the first recorded adoption we know. God placed Moses with an adoptive family to fulfill His will.
•God blesses every adoption.

At the Christian Child Placement Service we know that choosing the best option with an unplanned pregnancy is a very difficult decision. We provide information on all options with an unexpected pregnancy so birth parents can make the decision about what option is right for them and their baby.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

Pregnancy Drinking

2011-03-17T09:17:00.000-06:00

Everything a person eats and drinks while pregnant affects the baby. If a person drinks alcohol while pregnant it can hurt the baby's growth. The baby may also have physical and behavioral problems that can last the rest of their life.

The children born with the most serious problems caused by alcohol have fetal alcohol syndrome.
These children may:

be born small
have problems eating or sleeping
have problems seeing and hearing
have trouble following directions and learning how to do simple things
have trouble paying attention and learning in school
need special teachers and schools
have trouble getting along with others and controlling their behavior
need medical care all of their lives
may never be able to work

There is not any kind of alcohol that is safe to drink while pregnant. Problems caused by alcohol while pregnant will last a child's whole life.

If a pregnant person drank alcohol before they knew they were pregnant, stop drinking. The pregnancy will have a better chance of going full term and the baby will more likely be born healthy.

If someone you know needs help to stop drinking call today! You can call this agency, your doctor, an alcohol treatment program, social worker, pastor, or a clinic. There are many people and agencies that want to help!

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

16 and Pregnant (Season 2) | Ep. 5 | Adoption

2011-03-16T13:16:00.000-06:00

16 and Pregnant (Season 2) Ep. 5 Lori: Lori's parents support making an adoption plan, Lori has an unreliable ex-boyfriend, so she eventually realizes adoption may be her only option.

Lori finds herself experiencing an unexpected pregnancy. Her boyfriend and her are no longer together and cannot have a conversation without arguing. Her ex-boyfriend tags her along with empty promises and lies, leading her to believe that he is going to step up and support her and the baby.

Lori’s parents state their belief that Lori should place the baby for adoption after looking at all of the facts. Lori’s parents are consistently showing tough love to her, and she does not like the straight forward honest truth.

Lori decides that adoption is her only real option after all other hopes to raise the baby herself with her ex-boyfriend’s support fall through. Lori stated that the pregnancy is the hardest thing that she has ever gone through and she wished that she had taken the pregnancy seriously much sooner.

Lori and her ex-boyfriend come to the agreement that they will explore the adoption option. Lori decides to go forward with her adoption plan by using the security of an adoption agency. With the protection of the adoption agency Lori was able to choose an adoptive family.

The ex-boyfriend finally faces the reality that he truthfully cannot parent the baby and tells Lori that he is onboard with the adoption option.

Lori made an adoption plan with an adoption agency, she cared for the baby in the hospital like she planned to do, and she and the adoptive family took part in an adoption placement ceremony as planned.

If you are thinking about adoption and want the security and protection of working with an adoption agency call us we will support you during this time, and will help you make a tailor-made adoption plan.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

"Despicable Me" - Adoption

2011-03-15T09:37:00.003-06:00

I recently saw the movie "Despicable Me" for the first time. I liked the movie, the adoption story line had a twist but most adoption plans do. People adopt for many reasons, and the decision for a family to finally adopt should not be selfish but they should do it for the child(ren) and for God.

In the movie Gru did start out with selfish motives. It is amazing how children soften adult’s intentions. Both the adoptive mother and adoptive father need to be on the same page when they choose to adopt. Even if everyone in their lives does not agree with their adoption plan the adoptive family needs to have a united firm foundation.

Gru adopted Margo, Edith, & Agnes for a selfish reason. He did not love them and did not want to, but those children changed his heart. He finally allowed them into his heart. He found that they loved him no matter what he did or how he was, and he loved them in spite of his past.

Adoptive families are not perfect but they love, cherish, spoil, provide for, take care of, nurture children from all backgrounds, and so much more despite the families imperfections. To learn more about placing a child for adoption into one of our adoptive families (who are not super villins) contact us, we would love to assist you!

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

i want to give my baby up for adoption 2011

2011-03-14T09:45:00.001-06:00

Adoption is a positive decision for an expectant mom and her child, but the decision does not come without feelings of grief. Making an adoption plan for the child to become a permanent part of another family is not an easy choice. Grief and loss are natural emotions that will be felt as they think about choosing a family to nurture and care for their child. However, this pain is someday replaced by strength. When a mother makes the unselfish decision to give her child a lifetime of special opportunities through adoption, she is rewarded with peace of mind by knowing that she did the very best thing for her child at this time in her life.

At the Christian Child Placement Service we know that choosing the best option with an unplanned pregnancy is a very difficult decision. We provide information on all options with an unexpected pregnancy so birth parents can make the decision about what option is right for them and their baby.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14

Giving up a Baby for Adoption in New Mexico

2011-03-13T06:23:00.000-06:00

Is adoption the right choice for you and for your child? How can you make a plan that will meet your needs and your child's needs?

Here are some questions that may help you as you plan for your and your child's future. This isn't every question you may have, but it will get you started with some answers.

How can adoption be a good choice for my baby and me?
If you're not ready to be a parent, you can still give your baby the gift of life by choosing adoption.

Can I choose the family for my baby?
Yes! We have many adoptive couples who have been studied and are approved and waiting for a child.

How much will my child know about me?
Regardless of the type of adoption plan, you will want to provide a thorough social and medical history for your child. If you develop an adoption plan that includes ongoing contact, your child will know about you what you share with him/her.

Does the expectant father have any rights?
Both you and the expectant father have rights. If you disagree about adoption or you no longer have a relationship with him, we will work with him and/or the courts to determine his rights.

How can I be sure that my child will be well cared for?
There are standards that every prospective adoptive family must meet which are set by both this agency and the state of New Mexico. Families are thoroughly assessed before being approved for adoption, and a caseworker will make visits to the adoptive family after placement to ensure your child's well-being.

Do I need an attorney, or do I pay my agency to assist me with the adoption?
By using this licensed adoption agency, you will not need an attorney, if you do need an attorney, we will pay those costs for you. This agency provides all services to you at no cost.

Can I get help with medical and living expenses while I'm making an adoption plan?
Assistance with medical and living expenses is available through this agency. For details about how we can help you in your particular circumstances, contact us.

Experience Matters!
Since 1979, the Christian Child Placement Service has counseled expectant parents facing unplanned pregnancies, and aided them with their adoption plan.

We are located locally here in New Mexico; Christian Child Placement Service is the oldest licensed
adoption agency in the state of New Mexico.

Christian Child Placement Service
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e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
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Questions Considering Adoption

2011-03-12T10:15:00.001-07:00

As you consider adoption, here are some questions to ask yourself:

•Do you feel like your baby would have a better life if he/she were raised by a married couple who could offer him/her more than you can right now?

•Do you think that your chances of accomplishing your personal goals would be greater if you were not a parent at this time in your life?

•If you could choose the parents to adopt your child, would that make you feel more comfortable with adoption?

•If you knew that you could tell your child your reasons for choosing adoption, do you think that would make your adoption decision easier?

•If you were able to receive counseling and emotional support both during and after your pregnancy, would that help you deal with making an adoption plan?

•If you knew that all of the adoptive parents you had to choose from had first been required to spend years going through an extensive screening process before being approved to adopt a child, would that help you feel more certain about your child’s safety and security?

•If you could talk to someone who was in the process of placing a child for adoption or who had already placed her child for adoption, would that help answer some of your personal questions?

At the Christian Child Placement Service we know that choosing the best option with an unplanned pregnancy is a very difficult decision. We want to provide information on all options so a fully informed decision can be made allowing birthparnts can decide what is the best option for their unexpected pregnancy.

Christian Child Placement Services
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

unexpected pregnancy support; first-trimester

2011-03-11T10:00:00.002-07:00

During pregnancy, a miracle unfolds inside you. Your baby's growing, your body's changing, and your hormones are surging. There are plenty of things you can do to make your journey as safe and enjoyable as possible and to prepare for what's to come.

First-trimester tasks, a helpful guide

Make sure you're really pregnant
Take your prenatal vitamin
Investigate health insurance
Choose a caregiver
Make a prenatal appointment
Consult your caregiver about medications you're taking
If you smoke, quit
Stop drinking alcohol
Cut down on caffeine
Make sure your activities are pregnancy-safe
Start avoiding hazardous foods
Do your best to eat well
Stock your kitchen with healthy stuff
Get relief from morning sickness
Go to bed early
Consider your options for prenatal testing
Learn the signs of a pregnancy problem
Think about when and how you'll announce your pregnancy
Follow your baby's development
Get ready to see or hear your baby
Drink water
Sneak in a pregnancy power nap
Try a relaxation technique
Take a quick walk
Track your weight gain
Do something nice for yourself

Follow the link if you would like to read details about each of these tasks:
http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ultimate-pregnancy-to-do-list-first-trimester_10341205.bc

As you can see there are a lot of things to consider while pregnant, especially if this is an unexpected pregnancy there are more. If you would like support during an unexpected pregnancy please contact us, we would be glad to inform you about all of your options with an unexpected pregnancy so you can make the best choice for you and your baby.

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY)
text/call: 575-714-0246

Lullaby For a Birthmom

2011-03-10T13:31:00.004-07:00

Michael Pearce Donley's tribute to birthmothers. "Birthmoms are heroes," Michael says. "and it's time they had a song to honor them." This was recorded live on January 30, 2010, a few days after it was written.

We provide information on all options with an unexpected pregnancy so birth parents can make the decision about what option is right for them and their baby. Contact us today for more information! We are a pregnancy resource center and Licensed Adoption Agency here to help!

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY)

Ethical Adoption Practice in New Mexico; SENATE JUDICIARY

2011-03-09T10:17:00.001-07:00

Dear Advocates for Ethical Adoption Practice in our State:

THANKS ONCE AGAIN TO EACH OF YOU! ! Yesterday morning (3/8/11) HB 125 (adoption services) and HB 158 (adoption advertising) got a “do pass” in the Senate Public Affairs. They are now being scheduled for our last, possibly most rigorous committee SENATE JUDICIARY. They could be heard anytime in the next few days so please contact members of Senate Judiciary promptly asking them to vote yes on these bills. The end is close!

RECAP OF THE PROBLEM Over the last ten years, adoption in New Mexico has fallen prey to profit-driven, out of state adoption businesses not licensed here. NM licensed professionals and vulnerable residents involved in an adoption process often face a serious crisis. These Predatory adoption businesses attract unsuspecting birth parents and adoptive parents to them through large-scale advertising. They provide informal but costly adoption services for months. They wait until the last moment to contact NM licensed professionals to furnish the minimum legally required adoption service. With much hanging in the balance, we discover that those we represent may have been misinformed of the facts involved in their adoption, and their rights and requirements in a New Mexico adoption process during a most emotionally vulnerable time.

HB125 (Adoption Services) expands the definition of adoption service and requires NM licensure for those who provide those services within our state. It would also require an accounting to and approval from a NM Court for disbursements paid on behalf of an adoption before a NM child may be moved to another state, (provides more jurisdiction). It also provides for more penalties for violators.

HB 158 (Adoption Advertising) would require that out of state adoption businesses not licensed or permitted to provide adoption services here to say so in their advertisements. The public is not able to determine who is a legitimate adoption service provider in this advertising. It also provides for more penalties for violators.

1) Please contact Senator Richard Martinez, Chair of Senate Judiciary (below). Ask if he can help HB158 and HB125 sponsored by Representative Al Park be heard together (as soon as possible of course). The bills were meant to be heard together. (Briefly there wasn’t a quorum when HB125 was voted on and had to go back this afternoon (for a sure YES vote) but causing a possible day’s lag behind HB158.

2) Call or email the members of Senate Judiciary (below). Ask them to VOTE YES on House Bills HB125 -Adoption Services and HB158 -Adoption Advertising. Attend this committee meeting to stand in support of it.

Ask all Senate Judiciary members (below) to vote YES on HB 125 (adoption services) and HB158 (adoption advertising). Please use your own words, pictures or whatever. Include your name and your address. Help us close legal loop-holes used by predatory adoption businesses in New Mexico. Restore ethical practice in adoption. To see the full legislation go to www.nmlegis.gov

SENATE JUDICIARY
Meets Mondays, Wednesdays & Fridays – 2:30 p.m. - Room 321

Senator / Role on Senate Judiciary Committee / District / County / Phone / Email

Sen. Richard C. Martinez, Chair
Dist. 5, Los Alamos, Rio Arriba, Santa Fe Co.
505-986-4487
rcmartinez@email.com

Sen. Peter Wirth, Vice Chair
Dist 25, Santa Fe
505-986-4276
Peter.wirth@nmlegis.gov

Sen. Tim Eichenberg, member
Dist. 15, Bernalillo
505-986-4859
Tim.eichenberg@nmlegis.gov

Sen. Eric G. Griego
Dist. 14, Bernalillo & Valencia
505-986-4862
Eric.griego@nmlegis.gov

Sen. Clinton D. Harden
Dist. 7, Colfax, Curry, Quay, San Miguel, Taos & Union
505-986-4369
charden@theosogroup.com

Sen. Linda M. Lopez
Dist. 11, Bernalillo
505-986-4737
Linda.lopez@nmlegis.gov

Sen. Cisco McSorley
Dist. 16, Bernalillo
505-986-4389
Cisco.mcsorley@nmlegis.gov

Sen. Sander Rue
Dist. 23, Bernalillo & Sandoval
505-986-4375
sanderrue@comcast.net

Sen. John C. Ryan
Dist. 10, Bernalillo & Sandoval
505-986-4373
jmailto:johnchrisryan@yahoo.com

Sen. Michael S. Sanchez
Dist. 29, Valencia
505-986-4727
senatormssanchez@aol.com

Sen. William H. Payne
Dist. 20, Bernalillo
505-986-4703
William.payne@nmlegis.gov

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

New Mexico Licensed Adoption Agency

2011-03-08T11:30:00.004-07:00

Adoption is a loving parenting option in which an expectant mom has the unique opportunity to provide a quality of life for their child that they may not otherwise be able to offer him/her at this time. It is a loving and courageous plan made because they are able to put their child's needs before their own, knowing that he/she deserves something more than they can provide at this point in their life.

The face of adoption looks much different now than it did in previous generations. Adoption today gives pregnant women the opportunity to create their own unique adoption plan. An expectant parent will be able to hand-pick the adoptive family, talk with them, meet them and correspond with them through letters and pictures through this agency allowing them to stay connected as the child grows. They can develop their own desired plan with support from their adoption caseworker.

Though adoption is a positive decision for an expectant mom and their child, the decision does not come without difficulties and challenges. Making a plan for the child to become a permanent part of someone else’s family is not an easy choice. Grief and loss are natural emotions they will feel as they think about choosing a family to nurture and care for their child. However, this pain is someday replaced by strength. When a mother makes the unselfish decision to give her child a lifetime of special opportunities through adoption, she is rewarded with peace of mind by knowing that she did the very best thing for her child.

We provide information on all of your options with an unexpected pregnancy so you can make the decision about what option is right for you and your baby. Contact us today!

Christian Child Placement Service
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

dont want baby

2011-03-07T14:12:00.004-07:00

Getting pregnant unexpectedly and unprepared may be very shocking! When the expectant mom starts to look at all her choices with the pregnancy/baby it will likely be hard to know what to do.

Deciding that they are not going to parent the baby is a big choice.

Even if a mom and/or dad has chosen to parent their baby but then later they choose that raising the child is too difficult, help is available.

We are here to support expectant moms emotionally, physically, and possibly financially while they are looking at all of their options with an unplanned pregnancy.

We are a pregnancy resource center and Licensed Adoption Agency; we help parents understand all of their options so they can choose what is best for them and their baby.

Contact us today!

call: 1-800-553-2229 (BABY)
text/call: 575-714-0246
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
website: http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
fb: http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife

Eastern New Mexico University Adoption Help

2011-03-03T14:35:00.001-07:00

We are a local Adoption Agency here in Portales, New Mexico and support and assist birth parents throughout the adoption process.

Considering adoption is a big decision, it takes a tremendous amount of unselfish love. Choosing an agency to work with while considering adoption is vital. There are large out of state facilitators and for profit agencies that want to use birth parents for the precious child they are considering placing for adoption. Ultimately they are not considering the current emotional needs of the birthparents, and continued emotional needs in the long run after the birth of the child.

We care about people experiencing an unplanned pregnancy! We will help them look at the pros and cons of each of their options so they can choose what is best for them and their baby. We will support them throughout whatever decision they make.

We have approved adoptive families that live in New Mexico and that live out of state. So by choosing to work with our local adoption agency that will support them, they can also choose a local family or a family from out of state depending on their desires. The key is that we are a local agency that will not defraud birth parents we will support them and enable them to follow through with their choice knowing they have continued support to achieve their goal with their pregnancy.

At the Christian Child Placement Service we know that choosing the best option with an unplanned pregnancy is a very difficult decision. We want to provide information on all of options so a fully informed decision can be made so birthparnts can decide what is the best option for their unexpected pregnancy.

Christian Child Placement Services
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

Ethical Adoption Practice in New Mexico, Bills to be Heard by Senate Public Affairs Committee

2011-03-02T11:41:00.000-07:00

THANKS ONCE AGAIN TO ALL OF YOU, Bills HB 125 and HB 158 passed the House and is now assigned to Senate Public Affairs Committee and will probably be heard Thursday or Friday (March 3rd or 4th ) of this week (or Tues March 8th) so we need to respond quickly.

Let the Senators below know how you’re connected to the adoption community and why ethical adoption practice is important to you. Paste pictures of your children into your emails or speak passionately of how important it is to you that birth parents, adoptees and adoptive parents are supported in an ethical, fully legal adoption process in our State.

Thank you again for your commitment, passion & action needed to turn these bills into New Mexico law. We’re getting closer! Time is getting short! We need your calls and emails to keep coming in order to get these bills passed. To see the full legislation go to http://www.nmlegis.gov/

RECAP OF THE PROBLEM Over the last ten years, adoption in New Mexico has fallen prey to profit-driven, out of state adoption businesses not licensed here. NM licensed professionals and vulnerable residents involved in an adoption process often face a serious crisis. These Predatory adoption businesses attract unsuspecting birth parents and adoptive parents to them through large-scale advertising. They provide informal but costly adoption services for months. They wait until the last moment to contact NM licensed professionals to furnish the minimum legally required adoption service. With much hanging in the balance, we discover that those we represent may have been misinformed of the facts involved in their adoption, and their rights and requirements in a New Mexico adoption process during a most emotionally vulnerable time.

HB125 (Adoption Services) expands the definition of adoption service and requires NM licensure for those who provide those services within our state. It would also require an accounting to and approval from a NM Court for disbursements paid on behalf of an adoption before a NM child may be moved to another state, (provides more jurisdiction). It also provides for more penalties for violators.

HB 158 (Adoption Advertising) would require that out of state adoption businesses not licensed or permitted to provide adoption services here to say so in their advertisements. The public is not able to determine who is a legitimate adoption service provider in this advertising. It also provides for more penalties for violators.

1) Call or email the 8 members of Senate Public Affairs Committee (below). Ask them to VOTE YES on House Bills HB125 -Adoption Services and HB158 -Adoption Advertising. Include your name and your address. Attend this committee meeting to stand in support of these bills.

SENATE PUBLIC AFFAIRS COMMITTEE
Meets Tuesday, Thursday, Fridays – 2:30 p.m. - Room 303

Sen. Dede Feldman, Chair
Dist. 13 Bernalillo
505-986-4482
Dede.Fedlman@nmlegis.gov

Sen. Tim Eichenberg, Vice Chair
Dist. 15, Bernalillo
505-986-4859
Tim.eichenberg@nmlegis.gov

Sen. Eric G. Griego, member
14, Bernalillo & Valencia
505-986-4862
Eric.griego@nmlegis.gov

Sen. Vernon Asbill, member
Dist. 34,
Eddy & Otero
505-986-4393
vernon@asbillforsenate.com

Sen. Mark Boitano, member
Dist 18
Bernalillo
505-986-4366
boitanom@aol.com

Mary Jane Garcia, Member
Dist. 36 Dona Ana
505-986-4726
Maryjane.garcia@nmlegis.gov

Cynthia Nava, Member
Dist. 31, Dona Ana
505-986-4834
Cynthia.nava@nmlegis.gov

William F. Burt
Dist. 40, Dona Ana & Otero
505-986-1414
Bill.burt@nmlegis.gov

Christian Child Placement Services

e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

Pregnant in High School & Considering Adoption

2011-03-01T10:48:00.000-07:00

Thousands of young women and men choose to make an adoption plan for their unborn children, and many families turn to infant adoption as a way to build their family. There may be any number of reasons why the birth parents make this choice, but what is consistent is that they want the very best for their children and feel that adoption can provide it. They entrust the raising of their children to loving, adoptive parents because they cannot parent their children at this time. Christian Child Placement Service has been assisting birth parents and bringing families together through infant adoption for more than 30 years.

Infant adoption is the adoption of a newborn or very young child whose birth parent has made the difficult decision that she is unable to parent at that point. These parents love and wish that they could parent their children but feel that adoptive placement is the best decision for their children. The parents relinquish their rights voluntarily. The majority of birth parents who take part in infant adoptions select and meet the prospective adoptive parents and want some level of openness in their adoption, which refers to a level of contact after the placement.

There is no easy solution to an unplanned pregnancy. Each option with an unexpected pregnancy is hard and has its own difficulties. The birth parent can empower themselves by getting as much information as they can get about their options. So they can carefully and weigh each option to be able to make the right decision for them and their baby.

Christian Child Placement Services
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

University of the Southwest in New Mexico Adoption Help

2011-02-28T10:48:00.003-07:00

The Christian Child Placement Service (CCPS) is a full service licensed New Mexico adoption agency. Choosing an agency to work with while considering adoption is vital. There are large out of state facilitators and for profit agencies that advertise on the web that are not licensed in New Mexico and only want to use birth parents for the precious child they are considering placing for adoption. Ultimately they are not considering the current emotional needs of the birthparents, and continued emotional needs in the long run after the birth of the child.

CCPS provides various forms of assistance for birthparents considering adoption.

At CCPS the birth parents select the adoptive parents they want to raise their baby.

A CCPS caseworker is available to take birth mothers to doctor's visits so they don't have to go alone.

After the baby is placed in the adoptive home pictures and letters can be provided to the birth parents if they desire communication.

Support is always available...whenever someone in an unplanned pregnancy needs us; we are here to talk day and night!

We continue to support the birth parents throughout the pregnancy and beyond, helping them get connected to resources that will aid them in life after a placement.

There is no easy solution to an unplanned pregnancy. Each option with an unexpected pregnancy is hard and has its own difficulties. The birth parent can empower themselves by getting as much information as they can get about their options. So they can carefully and weigh each option to be able to make the right decision for them and their baby.

Christian Child Placement Services
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

New Mexico Adption Bill HB125 (Adoption Services) Passed the House

2011-02-27T01:49:00.000-07:00

HB125 (Adoption Services) passed the House yesterday, 65 for 1 against 3 absent/excused) after a long wait and delays.

HB158 (Adoption adverrtising) will be voted on Monday early in the day as it is at the top of Monday's agenda. I am very confident HB125 will pass very easily thanks to all your hard work. HB158 is a much less complicated bill and has a lot of support thanks to your emails and phone calls.

Sometime next week these two bills will be assigned to one or two committees in the Senate and we can start contacting the committee members and Senators. We will have a little lag time on this because the bills that started in the House can't cross over to the Senate until the Senate has processed all it's bills.Once the Senate finishes it's bills their bills will pass over to the House. Representative Park did a great job presenting them in committees and before the House.

We have a good chance of passing these bills because Representative Park got them rolling early and because of his leadership skills and positive relationships in the House and the Senate.

Christian Child Placement Services
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

Western New Mexico University Unexpected Pregnancy Help

2011-02-26T08:01:00.000-07:00

The thought of sharing the news of an unexpected pregnancy can be overwhelming. How do you choose the right time? The right words? What reaction will you get? Despite your fear, try to talk to others who love you and can help you instead of carrying both your baby and your news by yourself. No matter what you eventually decide is the best plan for your baby, you will need support.

Sharing Your Pregnancy
Just as you may have been in shock when you first learned you were pregnant, the people you tell may be stunned too. But just as you eventually moved from shock to planning, so will other people. Give them time to process their initial emotions. Don't make any lifelong decisions based on their first response. An unplanned teenage pregnancy can stir up many different emotions and everyone may need time to calm down, or their reaction may surprise you.

Only you know the best approach for the important people in your life, but here are some general tips:

•First, confirm your pregnancy with a doctor. Be sure you didn't get a false positive from a home pregnancy test.
•Practice telling someone supportive, but be prepared for the range of reactions you might get.
•Take a supportive person with you.
•Don't break the news at work or school or immediately after someone comes home from work or school.
•Start with how you are feeling, what you need, and why you are telling them. This may help them empathize with you.
•Write a letter if talking is too difficult. Don't use e-mail or text messaging.
•Don't ask for any immediate decisions.
•If you are worried about getting physically hurt, first plan for a safe place to go and arrange for a way to get there.

We provide information on all of your options with an unexpected pregnancy so you can make the decision about what option is right for you and your baby. Contact us today!
Christian Child Placement Services
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

University of New Mexico Birth Parent Adoption Rights

2011-02-25T09:40:00.001-07:00

In today's adoptions, an expectant parent plays the central role in deciding on what type of an adoption plan is best for them and their child, while the expectant parent is cared for throughout the adoption planning process. An expectant parent considering an adoption plan, has the right to:

1.Be treated with dignity and respect, not judgment or criticism.

2.Explore all options in a non-directive, non-coercive environment, including parenting and all levels of openness in adoption.

3.Be fully informed about legal rights during the decision-making stage.

4.Choose the prospective adoptive family.

5.Develop an adoption plan with your counselor and the adoptive family.

6.Spend time in the hospital with the baby.

7.Make the decision about adoption after the birth of the baby. Planning for adoption does not make it a final decision, and an adoption plan does not become definite until legal papers are signed releasing birth parents rights after the birth.

8.Sign relinquishment papers when the birth parent is ready.

9.Have all questions answered honestly and completely, at any stage.

10.Have the birth parents relationship with their child acknowledged and their grief and loss recognized.

11.Receive post-placement support.

There is no easy solution to an unplanned pregnancy. Each option with an unexpected pregnancy is hard and has its own difficulties. The birth parent can empower themselves by getting as much information as they can get about their options. So they can carefully and weigh each option to be able to make the right decision for them and their baby.

Christian Child Placement Services
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
www.adoptnewmexico.org
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

Advocates Needed for Ethical Adoption Practice in New Mexico, Bills to be Heard by the full House

2011-02-24T00:06:00.000-07:00

WE GOT A “DO PASS” OUT OF HOUSE JUDICIARY COMMITTEE Wednesday, February 23rd.

OUR ADOPTION BILLS HB125 AND HB158 SHOULD BE VOTED UPON BY THE FULL HOUSE FLOOR tomorrow FRIDAY FEBRUARY 25TH. If the House votes yes on them they will be assigned to one or two commitees in Senate (probably Senate Judiciary) and then go before the full Senate for a Vote.

View Full Legislature: http://www.nmlegis.gov/lcs/

PLEASE CONTACT THESE PEOPLE IMMEDIATELY URGING THEM TO VOTE YES AND HELP GET THEM PASSED IN THE HOUSE: HB125 AND HB158, the companion adoption bills sponsored by Representative Al Park

Contact the 5 House Leadership Representatives & Your own Representative

Rep. Ben Lujan, (Santa Fe) Speaker of the House
505 986-4782 and email him at ben.lujan@nmlegis.gov

Rep. Ken Martinez (Cibola, McKinley &; San Juan), Majority Floor Leader
505 986-4776 or mlo1@7cities.net

Rep. Thomas C. Taylor (San Juan County) Minority Floor Leader
505 986-4757 tom@tomtaylor.net

Rep. Sheryl Williams Stapleton, (Bernalillo County) Majority Whip
505 986-4774 sheryl.stapleton@nmlegis.gov

Rep. Donald E. Bratton, (Lea County) Minority Whip 505 986-4857
505 986-4757 don.bratton@nmlegis.gov

THEN 1, 2, 3 CONTACT YOUR OWN LEGISLATIVE REPRESENTATIVE
1) Go to the legislator location webiste by pressing the control key and clicking on www.nmlegis.gov/lcs/districts.aspx (or paste it in your browser)

2) Locate the district (number) you live in by clicking on either House Statewide Map or if in Albuquerque click on House Albuquerque Map. On the statewide map Santa Fe County is missing some district numbers. To find your SF click on the number 45, 46, 47, 48 instead of the SF Representative’s name to see a more detailed map or email nichoe@earthlink.net or call me at 505 660 6523 if you need help.

3) Then return to the previous page ß, click on your district number to find your Representative’s contact information and email and call them. It is important that you inform a legislator that s/he is your representative. You can also contact legislators whom you know or who are in your general area. This is true especially in the more rural areas of the state.

Calling might be quicker but emails allow you to say more if you can get them done TODAY, Thursday the 24th.

We are the top emailers in the legislature :o) Keep up the great work!
Christian Child Placement Services
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

We Care- Local New Mexico Adoption Agency

2011-02-23T16:32:00.001-07:00

Considering adoption is a big decision, it takes a tremendous amount of unselfish love. Choosing an agency to work with while considering adoption is vital. There are large out of state facilitators and for profit agencies that want to use birth parents for the precious child they are considering placing for adoption. Ultimately they are not considering the current emotional needs of the birthparents, and continued emotional needs in the long run after the birth of the child.

We care about people experiencing an unplanned pregnancy! We are local here in New Mexico and will support birth parents throughout the adoption process. We will help them look at the pros and cons of each of their options so they can choose what is best for them and their baby. We will support them throughout whatever decision they make.

We have approved adoptive families that live in New Mexico and that live out of state. So by choosing to work with our local adoption agency that will support them, they can also choose a local family or a family from out of state depending on your desires. The key is that we are a local agency that will not defraud birth parents we will support them and enable them to follow through with their choice knowing they have continued support to achieve their goal with their pregnancy.

At the Christian Child Placement Service we know that choosing the best option with an unplanned pregnancy is a very difficult decision. We want to provide information on all of options so a fully informed decision can be made so birthparnts can decide what is the best option for their unexpected pregnancy.

Christian Child Placement Services
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
http://www.facebook.com/Adoption.aChoiceforLife
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex.14 *24/7*

10 Foods to Eat During an Unexpected Pregnancy

2011-02-22T09:41:00.000-07:00

Convenience foods that taste good are one of the luxuries of modern living – it's just unfortunate that so many of them are full of preservatives and other ingredients you should steer clear of during pregnancy. But there are a number of quick and easy foods that are genuinely good for you, especially if what you need is a light meal or snack to tide you over until your next full meal. Here are ten tasty foods to try:

Healthy "fast foods"

1. Fruit
Grab an apple, banana, pear, orange, or another favorite fruit. Or if you prefer, try those handy little 4-ounce fruit cups, which count as one serving toward your daily recommendation for fruits and vegetables during pregnancy. Choose varieties packed in their own juice rather than in sugary syrup.

2. Raisins
A small (1 1/2-ounce) box provides a little boost of fiber, iron, and potassium while satisfying a sweet tooth.

3. Yogurt
One 6-ounce container of this classic nutritious-and-convenient food can provide 25 percent of your daily calcium requirement, as well as protein and several necessary vitamins and minerals. If the label says "live and active cultures," you'll also get the benefit of probiotics – helpful bacteria that aid digestion and protect your digestive tract.

4. Make-it-yourself trail mix
Add a cup of whole grain cereal to a handful of your favorite dried fruits and nuts (try dried cherries and almonds, or dried cranberries and walnuts). Keep it in a resealable bag in your desk or car for a handy, crunchy snack.

5. Salad bar
Some fast-food restaurants and many grocery stores have salad bars where you can serve yourself practically a whole day's worth of fruits and vegetables. Load up on spinach, carrots, tomatoes, celery, cucumbers, and zucchini. Add nuts, chickpeas, and kidney beans for a protein boost, and top with raisins for iron, fiber, and potassium.

6. Baby carrots
Carrots are full of vitamin A and fiber, and you can find them in single-serving bags. Dip them in hummus or yogurt for an extra dose of nutrition or add a dab of salad dressing for flavor. Look for other prewashed veggies like broccoli, cauliflower, and spinach to make a quick dinnertime stir-fry.

7. String cheese
If you don't know about string cheese now, just wait until your baby is a toddler – this food is likely to become a favorite snack. Low-fat mozzarella sticks are full of calcium, and one stick provides the same amount of protein as an 8-ounce glass of milk.

8. Orange juice fortified with calcium and vitamin D
Just half a cup provides half the daily requirement of vitamin C and about 15 percent of your calcium needs. Grab a juice box (check the labels for maximum fortification) when you're on the go.

9. Whole grain cereal or instant oatmeal
Stash a few single-serving packages in your desk at work for a quick, filling snack. Almost all breakfast cereal is now fortified with essential vitamins and minerals, including folic acid.

10. Fat-free or low-fat cottage cheese
Cottage cheese is a good source of protein and a fair source of calcium. Look for single-serving containers in the dairy section of most grocery stores. Top with fruit or throw in a handful of nuts and dried fruit to make things more interesting.

From: American Dietetic Association & Nutrition for a Healthy Pregnancy found on http://www.babycenter.com/

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5 Foods to Avoid in an Unplanned Pregnancy

2011-02-21T10:44:00.000-07:00

Foods to avoid
1. Packaged ramen noodles
Read the label: These quick-cooking noodles are packed with salt, fat, and little else.

2. Soda
If you fill up on empty calories and sugar, you won't have any room for more nutritious drinks. Low-fat milk, water, and juice are better choices.

3. Shelf-stable commercial lunches
Sure, they're a quick fix for hunger pangs, but preservatives, salt, and fat make most of them a poor choice. There are some okay packaged lunch options out there, though, so check the labels!

4. Too many frozen prepared meals
There are some good choices out there, but many have astronomical amounts of salt and fat. Instead, pop a potato in the microwave, then top it with cheese and steamed broccoli for a fast, healthy meal. If you can't avoid the occasional frozen meal, look for organic brands that are low in salt and fat.

5. Iceberg lettuce
When it comes to lettuce, choose greens, such as romaine, that are full of fiber, A and C vitamins, folic acid, calcium, and potassium. Iceberg lettuce has only trace amounts of these nutrients.

From: American Dietetic Association & Nutrition for a Healthy Pregnancy found on http://www.babycenter.com/

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The Value of Standing for Life

2011-02-18T17:56:00.002-07:00

by: Jim Daly
The Focus on the Family Broadcast, "The Value of Standing for Life," is about life and death. It's about, among other things, the abortionist Dr. Kermit Gosnell. He is being charged with gruesome, cold-blooded murder of little babies. But today's discussion is also about hope. We don't just talk about evil - we look at how the Lord might use us to help stop it. The answer to that question is cause for encouragement and inspiration.

to listen to the broadcast: http://listen.family.org/daily/A000003079.cfm

This isn’t about politics or political correctness. This is about human beings and the death of human beings. It is high time this entire nation should come together and say, “Wait a minute. We’re better than this.”

Focus on the Family remains committed to seeing Roe v. Wade overturned. But in the meantime, I want to pose a challenge to Planned Parenthood and abortion activists. They continue to talk about abortion being “safe, legal and rare.”

Let’s consider:

Abortion by its nature is not safe. It’s certainly not safe for the child and in some cases, like we’ve seen with Dr. Gosnell, it’s not even physically safe for the mother. That’s not to mention the long-term emotional devastation that often accompanies this tragic choice.

As I ponder the heaviness of the moment, here is where I think the Lord is leading us:

We will continue to march toward that day when every life is seen as sacred. That is our ultimate aim. In the meantime, I continue to think about the babies that we’re losing right now. It’s time that we sit down with abortion advocates and lay down a challenge. In essence, say to them: “You want to make it rare? Tell us how.”

We won’t ever agree that it’s safe or that it should be legal. We’ll continue to fight for the day that we can overturn Roe v. Wade, because every life is sacred. But I see this as a positive step forward in that fight.

I take my hat off to all those who have labored with such dedication and sacrifice to advance the pro-life cause over these last few decades. Over the years, you, and we, have done great things to incrementally improve a very evil reality. Babies have been saved. Hearts have been changed. But it doesn’t appear we’re going to reach our ultimate goal of eliminating abortion any time soon. So what do we do right now to save more babies this year that will be lost if we don’t sit down and see how we can make it more rare?

Again, this doesn’t mean we agree. We will not compromise our convictions. But how do we save more children who would otherwise be aborted?

The Lord is on our side. The majority of Americans are on our side. Technology is on our side. And now I think we can seize the opportunity to begin to prove that life is the better choice and, at some point, the only choice.

I want to hear from you. What do you think? Post your comments - I want to read them. I want to know what you think about what we’re talking about. What is the Lord putting on your heart?

In addition to prayer and your witness in your sphere of influence, there are other practical things you can do to help in this ongoing defense of life. I encourage you to visit our CitizenLink website to learn more.

I was reminded the other day about the motto of the Army Corps of Engineers. I think it sums up the spirit of our challenge today as pro-life advocates:

The difficult we do immediately. The impossible takes a little longer.

Let’s work toward saving more babies starting today, and let’s continue to work and pray and sacrifice for that day when all babies will be welcomed into life.

Follow Jim Daly on Twitter @Dalyfocus

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Giving my baby up for adoption in New Mexico

2011-02-17T01:47:00.000-07:00

There is no easy solution to an unplanned pregnancy. Each choice is hard and has its own difficulties. You can empower yourself by getting as much information as you can get about your options. Giving yourself time to consider carefully and weigh each option will help you make the right decision for you and your baby.

We are your local New Mexico Licensed Adoption Agency.
A song about an unplanned pregnancy journey

Our Adoption Services are all Free,

housing and living expenses possible
coverage of medical expenses (where applicable)
pregnancy tests •pregnancy options counseling
truthful abortion information
pregnancy information
baby/fetal development information
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parenting information
legal expense coverage for adoptions
and more

You are not alone, contact us for caring empathetic support
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Adoption Agency- New Mexico

2011-02-16T09:08:00.002-07:00

In the past, many expectant parents have not chosen adoption because they have had little control or influence on what the future will hold for their child. In today's adoptions, an expectant parent plays the central role in deciding on what type of an adoption plan is best for her and her child, while she is also cared for throughout the adoption planning process. As an expectant parent considering an adoption plan, you have the right to:

1.Be treated with dignity and respect, not judgment or criticism.
2.Explore all of your options in a non-directive, non-coercive environment, including parenting and all levels of openness in adoption.
3.Be fully informed about your legal rights during the decision-making stage.
4.Choose the prospective adoptive family if this is what you want to do.
5.Develop an adoption plan with your counselor and the adoptive family.
6.Spend time in the hospital with your baby, if you want to.
7.Make the decision about adoption after the birth of the baby. Planning for adoption does not make it a final decision, and an adoption plan does not become definite until you sign legal papers releasing your rights after the birth.
8.Sign relinquishment papers when you are ready.
9.Have your questions answered honestly and completely, at any stage.
10.Have your relationship with your child acknowledged and your grief and loss recognized.
11.Receive post-placement support.
There is no easy solution to an unplanned pregnancy. Each choice is hard and has its own difficulties. You can empower yourself by getting as much information as you can get about your options. Giving yourself time to consider carefully and weigh each option will help you make the right decision for you and your baby.

If you would like to learn more about our FREE services please contact:
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Clovis Community College Adoption Help

2011-02-15T09:44:00.007-07:00

We are your local Adoption Agency here in Portales, NM.

Adoption may be an option that you are seriously considering. Or you may just be wondering what adoption is like. Or, you may feel that you could never choose adoption. Whatever your thoughts, it is always good to have information about all of your choices before you make a final decision.

Adoption might be a good choice for you and your baby, especially if you don't feel ready to be a parent just now. When you consider making an adoption plan for your child, that doesn't mean you don't love your baby. It also doesn't mean that you are taking the easy way out. What it does mean is that you are thinking about how to best meet needs: yours and your baby's, today and well into the future.

Our Adoption Services are all Free, including but not limited to:
•housing and living expenses possible
•coverage of medical expenses (where applicable)
•pregnancy tests
•pregnancy options counseling
•truthful abortion information
•pregnancy information
•baby/fetal development information
•sexually transmitted disease (STD) information
•parenting information
•legal expense coverage for adoptions
•and more

There is no easy solution to an unplanned pregnancy. Each choice is hard and has its own difficulties. You can empower yourself by getting as much information as you can get about your options. Giving yourself time to consider carefully and weigh each option will help you make the right decision for you and your baby.

If you would like to learn more about our FREE services please contact:Christian Child Placement Service
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Unplanned Pregnancy & Milk, Cheeses, and Ready to eat Meats

2011-02-14T10:14:00.000-07:00

A pregnant woman shold follow these guidlines when eating ready to eat meats, cheese or drinking milk while pregnant:

Do not eat raw hotdogs or lunch meats (including deli meats, i.e. ham, urkey, salami, and bologna) unless they are reeated until steaming hot.
Do not drink unpasteurized milk or fods made from it.
Avoid soft cheeses (feta, brie, Camembert, Roquefort, blue-veined, queso blanco, queso fresco or Panela) unless the cheese is labeled as made with pasteurized milk.
Do not eat refrigerated meat spreads.
Avoid smoked refrigerated seafood.

Healthy pregnant women that eat the above foods are more likely to get ill from a bacterium called listeriousis than most other people. If a pregnant women has eaten the above foods and develops severe headache and stiff neck she should contact her health care provider.

Info from the March of Dimes

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Food-borne risks during an unexpected pregnancy

2011-02-13T10:41:00.000-07:00

Pregnant women should avoid eating raw or undercoked meats, poultry and eggs because they can increase their risk in getting a food born illness.

A pregnant woman could pass some of the illnesses along to their unborn baby. Some affected babies develop vision and hearing loss, mental retardation, seizures and other problems.

Pregnant women should avoid foods made with partially cooked eggs, like egg nog, hollandaise sauce and ceser salid dressing.

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Ethical Adoption Practice in New Mexico, House Judiciary Committee, Advocates Needed

2011-02-12T14:34:00.000-07:00

Dear Advocates for Ethical Adoption Practice in New Mexico:

HB 125 and HB 158 got a “do pass” 2/10/11 from the House Consumer and Public Affairs Committee whose members have told us that hundreds of you contacted them. Thank you for all your thoughtful comments to this committee. Some pasted pictures of their children into their emails. Others spoke passionately of how important it was to them that the birth parents are supported in an ethical, fully legal process. Adoption professionals spoke of the ethical challenges they have experienced with predatory adoption. Thank you again for your commitment, passion & action necessary to make these bills become law in New Mexico.

The bills will be scheduled in HOUSE JUDICIARY COMMITTEE and may be be heard next week Wed 2/16/11 or Friday 2/18/11. Judiciary is a big committe and can be challenging. We seriously need your calls and emails. If we get a “do pass” from Judiciary then our bills go before the full House for a vote. If approved they will then be passed over into the Senate where they will be assigned to at least one committee (probably Senate Judiciary).

RECAP OF THE PROBLEM Over the last ten years, adoption in New Mexico has fallen prey to profit-driven, out of state adoption businesses not licensed here. NM licensed professionals and vulnerable residents involved in an adoption process often face a serious crisis. These Predatory adoption businesses attract unsuspecting birth parents and adoptive parents to them through large-scale advertising. They provide informal but costly adoption services for months. They wait until the last moment to contact NM licensed professionals to furnish the minimum legally required adoption service. With much hanging in the balance, we discover that those we represent may have been misinformed of the facts involved in their adoption, and their rights and requirements in a New Mexico adoption process during a most emotionally vulnerable time.

HB125 (Adoption Services) expands the definition of adoption service and requires NM licensure for those who provide those services within our state. It would also require an accounting to and approval from a NM Court for disbursements paid on behalf of an adoption before a NM child may be moved to another state, (provides more jurisdiction). It also provides for more penalties for violators.

HB 158 (Adoption Advertising) would require that out of state adoption businesses not licensed or permitted to provide adoption services here to say so in their advertisements. The public is not able to determine who is a legitimate adoption service provider in this advertising. It also provides for more penalties for violators.

Please take 15 minutes out of the next few days to contact House Judiciary members. Ask them to vote YES on HB 125 (adoption services) and HB158 (adoption advertising). Please use your own words, pictures or whatever. Include your name and your address. Help us close legal loop-holes used by predatory adoption businesses in New Mexico. Restore ethical practice in adoption

1) Call Representative Al Park’s office at 505 986-4411. Thank him for sponsoring HB125 and HB158 and the awesome job he did advocating for our legislation before the committee.

To see the full legislation go to http://www.nmlegis.gov/

2) Call or email the 15 members of House Judiciary (below) by Wed Feb 16th noon. Ask them to VOTE YES on House Bills HB125 -Adoption Services and HB158 -Adoption Advertising.

HOUSE JUDICIARY
Meets Mondays, Wednesdays & Fridays - 1:30 p.m. - Room 309

Name of Representative / Role / District / County/ Capitol Phone / Email

Al Park, Chair & sponsor of HB 125 & HB 158
26/Bernalillo
505-986-4413
Alpark.nm@gmail.com

Joseph Cervantes, Vice Chair
52/Dona Ana
505-986-4234
joseph@cervanteslaw.com

Eliseo Lee Alcon, Member
6/Cibola & McKinley
505-986-4243
eliseoalcon@msn.com

Paul C. Bandy, Member
3/San Juan
505-986-4248
paul@paulbandy.org

Cathrynn Brown, Member
55/Eddy
505-986-4211
Brown55@windstream.net

Gail Chasey, Member
18/Bernalillo
505-986-2221
gailchasey@msn.com

David Chavez, Member
7/Valencia
505-986-4451
david@davidchavez.com

Zachary J. Cook, Member
56/Lincoln & Otero
505-986-4454
zachjcook@gmail.com

David L. Doyle,Member
23/Bernalillo & Sandoval
505-986-4249
ddoyle@ebnm.com

Brian F. Egolf, Member
47/Santa Fe
505-986-9641
brian@brianegolf.com

Nate Gentry, Member
30/Bernalillo
505-986-4249
natefornm@gmail.com

Antonio “Moe” Maestas, Member
16/Bernalillo
505-986-4233
Rep16@moejustice.com

Bill B. O’Neill, Member
15/Bernalillo
505-986-4464
oneillhd15@fastmail.us

William “Bill” R. Rehm, Member
31/Bernalillo
505-986-4248
Bill.rehm@nmlegis.gov

Mimi Stewart, Member
21/Bernalillo
505-986-4344
mstewart@osogrande.com

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New Mexico Highlands University Adoption Help

2011-02-11T09:31:00.000-07:00

Is adoption the right choice for you and for your child? How can you make a plan that will meet your needs and your child's needs?

We've put together some questions that can help you as you plan for your and your child's future. This isn't every question you may have, but it can get you started with some answers.

How can adoption be a good choice for my baby and me?
If you're not ready to be a parent, you can still give your baby the gift of life by choosing adoption.

Can I choose the family for my baby?
Yes! We have many adoptive couples who have been studied and are approved and waiting for a child.

How much will my child know about me?
Regardless of the type of adoption plan, you will want to provide a thorough social and medical history for your child. If you develop an adoption plan that includes ongoing contact, your child will know about you what you share with him/her.

Does the expectant father have any rights?
Both you and the expectant father have rights. If you disagree about adoption or you no longer have a relationship with him, we will work with him and/or the courts to determine his rights.

How can I be sure that my child will be well cared for?
There are standards that every prospective adoptive family must meet which are set by both this agency and the state of New Mexico. Families are thoroughly assessed before being approved for adoption, and a caseworker will make visits to the adoptive family after placement to ensure your child's well-being.

Do I need an attorney, or do I pay my agency to assist me with the adoption?
By using this licensed adoption agency, you will not need an attorney, if you do need an attorney, we will pay those costs for you. This agency provides all services to you at no cost.

Can I get help with medical and living expenses while I'm making an adoption plan?
Assistance with medical and living expenses is available through this agency. For details about how we can help you in your particular circumstances, contact us.

Experience Matters!
Since 1979, the Christian Child Placement Service has counseled expectant parents facing unplanned pregnancies, and aided them with their adoption plan.

We are located locally here in New Mexico; Christian Child Placement Service is the oldest adoption agency in the state of New Mexico.

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