The Link to MTV's TV Special:
'No Easy Decision' Special: "Markai and James take cameras on their difficult journey as they decide how to proceed with a second unplanned pregnancy and talk with Dr. Drew about making the toughest decision of their lives."
For the past couple of years, MTV has been showing teens the highs and lows of adoption and parenting with programs like "16 & Pregnant" and "Teen Mom". Abortion took center stage during a special called "No Easy Decision" -- a heartbreaking inside look at three young women who chose abortion. But no matter how slanted MTV is with this topic, they could not hide the hurt and loss these mothers are feeling.
One mother said she had already fallen in love with her unborn baby, but abortion staffers told her it was only a clump of cells and advised her not to think of it as a child with ten fingers and ten toes. Just six weeks pregnant, she went in for the procedure and, even as cameras followed her the next day, almost instantly showed signs of post-abortion stress syndrome: anger, sadness and regret. Another cried, acknowledging the pain she feels when she sees her nephew who was born around the time she had her abortion -- a reminder of what she could have had. Though these women are trying to cope with their decisions and promote abortion as a reasonable option, their pain is far more apparent than they may realize. Our hearts go out to them and the millions more who are daily lied to by a calloused abortion industry. We pray, too, that this show -- however biased it was intended to be -- will be used for good.
One mother stated, "Doing what is right for the baby and giving the baby up for adoption, I don't think I could have gone through with that." But she was able to go through with terminating a pregnancy.
Post-Abortion Stress Syndrome (PASS) is real, PASS can affect women after an abortion. Some women who have had an abortion can find themselves having problems with physical or emotional issues. After an abortion it's possible that a woman will have some feelings of grief, guilt, sadness, crying and loss when this occurs she may be suffering from PASS. PASS may not even occur for several months/years after the abortion has taken place.
Some women experience the following after an abortion within the first 3 months:
• Self-harm, strong suicidal thoughts or suicide attempts (CALL 911 NOW)
• Increase in dangerous and/or unhealthy activities (alcohol/drug abuse, anorexia/bulimia, compulsive over- eating, cutting, casual and indifferent sex and other inappropriate risk-taking behaviors)
• Depression that is stronger than just 'a little sadness or the blues'
• Inability to perform normal self-care activities
• Inability to function normally in her job or in school
• Inability to take care of or relate to her existing children or function normally in her other relationships
(i.e. with a spouse, partner, other family member or friends)
• A desire to immediately get pregnant and 'replace' the baby that was aborted, even when all the circumstances that led her to 'choose abortion' the first time are still in place.
If you have had an abortion and are experiencing any of the above SEEK HELP EMEDIATLY. You are not alone. I am here to help, call a family member, friend, or health care personnel. Don't wait get help!
Some women have problems after an abortion that continues for months or years.
• emotions, and dealing with emotional issues
• struggles with depression
• continued suicidal thoughts or attempts
• anxiety and panic disorder
• addictions of all kinds
• difficulty sleeping and sleeping problems
• disturbing dreams and/or nightmares
• problems with phobias, or increase in severity of existing phobias
• eating disorders
• "replacement baby" syndrome
• repeated unplanned pregnancies with additional abortions
• repeated unplanned pregnancies carried to term
• "atonement marriage", where the woman marries the partner from the abortion, to help justify the abortion
• trouble with relationships and dealing with partners
• distress at the sight of other pregnant women, other people's babies and children
• inability to deal with or socialize with other pregnant women, other people's babies and children
• codependence and inability to make decisions easily
• problems with severe and disproportionate anger
• work and school problems (unable to function normally)
• problems bonding with and caring for existing children or new babies
• distress and problems with later pregnancy
• added emotional issues and problems when dealing with future infertility or other physical complications resulting from the abortion.
• unhealthy obsession with excelling at work or school, to justify the abortion
If you found yourself in any of the cycles listed above please seek help! You are not alone; contact me, a family member, a friend, a counselor, a social worker, or health care personnel.
Abortionist may deny that PASS occurs or exists. I have worked with women that have and are experiencing the problems above, PASS is real! If you are contemplating an abortion I have factual information about abortions that the abortionist may not share with you. Please contact me and my agency will provide the information to you FREE of charge. Also our agency offers Bible based post-abortion counseling FREE of charge to any woman.
Call anytime, you are not alone! 1-800-553-2229
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Will it cost me to give my baby up for adoption?
The Christian Child Placement Service, Adoption Agency, provides information for you about all of your options including adoption.
•All of our services are FREE
•We are a licensed adoption agency
•We provide tailor made adoptions
•We have caring professionals that can see your needs are met
•Birth parents choose the adoptive family
•We will support you before and after an adoption placement
•We provide free pregnancy tests
•Transportation to doctors visits and other appointments is provided if needed
•Pregnancy options counseling is provided for everyone in an unplanned pregnancy
•We provide baby/fetal development information
•Factual parenting information is provided
•Legal expense coverage for adoption
•Housing and living expenses possible
•Coverage of medical expenses (where applicable)
•We believe that adoption is a loving and unselfish decision
•Birth parents choose the level of openness they want with the adoptive family and child
Contact us for more information on all of your options with your pregnancy:
Christian Child Placement Service
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
•All of our services are FREE
•We are a licensed adoption agency
•We provide tailor made adoptions
•We have caring professionals that can see your needs are met
•Birth parents choose the adoptive family
•We will support you before and after an adoption placement
•We provide free pregnancy tests
•Transportation to doctors visits and other appointments is provided if needed
•Pregnancy options counseling is provided for everyone in an unplanned pregnancy
•We provide baby/fetal development information
•Factual parenting information is provided
•Legal expense coverage for adoption
•Housing and living expenses possible
•Coverage of medical expenses (where applicable)
•We believe that adoption is a loving and unselfish decision
•Birth parents choose the level of openness they want with the adoptive family and child
Contact us for more information on all of your options with your pregnancy:
Christian Child Placement Service
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
Monday, January 17, 2011
Lonely Birth Mom Looking Into Adoption
Experiencing an unexpected pregnancy can be a very lonely time. Afraid to share the news that you are pregnant with friends and family can be very lonely. Not knowing where to turn... turn to us... let us help support you during this difficult time.
We are pregnancy counselors and adoption caseworkers that will share information about all of your options with you so you can make an informed decision about your pregnancy. We will stand by you if you choose to tell your loved ones and we will be your support if you don’t.
By Your Side - Tenth Avenue North
Christian Child Placement Service
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex. 14
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
We are pregnancy counselors and adoption caseworkers that will share information about all of your options with you so you can make an informed decision about your pregnancy. We will stand by you if you choose to tell your loved ones and we will be your support if you don’t.
By Your Side - Tenth Avenue North
Christian Child Placement Service
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229 (BABY) ex. 14
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Christian Adoption Topics: Prayer
Prayer at its Best by: Julie Clinton, M.A. @ Extraordinary Women
"The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and wonderful results." James 5:16 NLT
Too often our prayers turn into pleaful monologues. We present nothing more than our requests to Him… our worries and concerns about life… and maybe a thanks every once in a while. But intimacy is about seeing into another person, and you can only see into somebody else by listening to what he or she has to say—a two-way conversation of give-and-take, talking and listening. Prayer at its best is an intimate conversation between you and God.
When we really listen, we’re better able to hear God speaking to us by His Spirit, through the Bible, through friends, through circumstances, or through a gentle “knowing” that settles in our hearts. When He responds, we know His words will draw us closer to Him because whatever He asks of us is a reflection of His character. When we do more of what He wants, we become more like Him.
Slowing down to pray is difficult in our time-starved society, but we must do it. Getting alone and being still before God in prayer reinforces our dependence on Him and increase our intimacy with Him.
Pray specifically. Then, listen. God will respond.
Christian Child Placement Service
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229 ex. 14
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
"The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and wonderful results." James 5:16 NLT
Too often our prayers turn into pleaful monologues. We present nothing more than our requests to Him… our worries and concerns about life… and maybe a thanks every once in a while. But intimacy is about seeing into another person, and you can only see into somebody else by listening to what he or she has to say—a two-way conversation of give-and-take, talking and listening. Prayer at its best is an intimate conversation between you and God.
When we really listen, we’re better able to hear God speaking to us by His Spirit, through the Bible, through friends, through circumstances, or through a gentle “knowing” that settles in our hearts. When He responds, we know His words will draw us closer to Him because whatever He asks of us is a reflection of His character. When we do more of what He wants, we become more like Him.
Slowing down to pray is difficult in our time-starved society, but we must do it. Getting alone and being still before God in prayer reinforces our dependence on Him and increase our intimacy with Him.
Pray specifically. Then, listen. God will respond.
Christian Child Placement Service
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229 ex. 14
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Adoption Agency In New Mexico
The Christian Child Placement Service (CCPS) Adoption Agency is a licensed full service non-profit adoption agency located in Portales, New Mexico.
CCPS has profiles of approved and waiting prospective adoptive couples for birth parents to choose who they would like to place their child with.
CCPS adoption agency has staff available 24 hours a day to listen to you and to answer questions; we are available whenever you need us.
CCPS can provide assistance to you during your unplanned pregnancy while you are considering adoption. We can help with physical needs, maternity care, or other needed assistance. We also have a nurse on campus.
•housing and living expenses possible
•coverage of medical expenses (where applicable)
•free pregnancy tests
•pregnancy options counseling
•truthful abortion information
•pregnancy information
•baby/fetal development information
•sexually transmitted disease (STD) information
•parenting information
•legal expense coverage for adoptions
•and more
We, at the Christian Child Placement Service know that choosing what is best for your child and yourself is very difficult. Contact us and we will be glad to help you learn about all of your options so you can makes a fully informed decision
Christian Child Placement Service
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229 ex. 14
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
CCPS has profiles of approved and waiting prospective adoptive couples for birth parents to choose who they would like to place their child with.
CCPS adoption agency has staff available 24 hours a day to listen to you and to answer questions; we are available whenever you need us.
CCPS can provide assistance to you during your unplanned pregnancy while you are considering adoption. We can help with physical needs, maternity care, or other needed assistance. We also have a nurse on campus.
•housing and living expenses possible
•coverage of medical expenses (where applicable)
•free pregnancy tests
•pregnancy options counseling
•truthful abortion information
•pregnancy information
•baby/fetal development information
•sexually transmitted disease (STD) information
•parenting information
•legal expense coverage for adoptions
•and more
We, at the Christian Child Placement Service know that choosing what is best for your child and yourself is very difficult. Contact us and we will be glad to help you learn about all of your options so you can makes a fully informed decision
Christian Child Placement Service
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229 ex. 14
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Honestly Face MYTHS About Marriage
Concepts from:
"Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts," Les & Leslie Parrott
Honestly Face MYTHS about marriage:
Husbands and wives expect the same things from marriage.
*Each Partner has unconscious expectations
*Each Partner has unspoken rules we don't know we have until our spouse breaks the rules
Everything good about a marriage gets better and better
Everything bad in my life will disappear because I get married
My spouse will make me whole (my spouse will complete me)
*Entering a relationship expecting to become whole will create codependence
*Two whole people need to marry for a relationship to be whole
*Get yourself healthy before you get yourself married
Christian Child Placement Service, Adoption Agency
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229 ex. 14
adopt@nmcch.org
"Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts," Les & Leslie Parrott
Honestly Face MYTHS about marriage:
Husbands and wives expect the same things from marriage.
*Each Partner has unconscious expectations
*Each Partner has unspoken rules we don't know we have until our spouse breaks the rules
Everything good about a marriage gets better and better
Everything bad in my life will disappear because I get married
My spouse will make me whole (my spouse will complete me)
*Entering a relationship expecting to become whole will create codependence
*Two whole people need to marry for a relationship to be whole
*Get yourself healthy before you get yourself married
Christian Child Placement Service, Adoption Agency
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229 ex. 14
adopt@nmcch.org
Monday, January 10, 2011
"11 Rules That You Won't Learn in School About Marriage."
by Dennis Rainey @ Family Life Today
Rule 1: Marriage isn't about your happiness. It's not about you getting all your needs met through another person. Practicing self-denial and self-sacrifice, patience, understanding, and forgiveness are the fundamentals of a great marriage. If you want to be the center of the universe, then there's a much better chance of that happening if you stay single.
Rule 2: Getting married gives a man a chance to step up and finish growing up. The best preparation for marriage for a single man is to man up now and keep on becoming the man God created him to be.
Rule 3: It's okay to have one rookie season, but it's not okay to repeat your rookie season. You will make rookie mistakes in your first year of marriage; the key is that you don't continue making those same mistakes in year five, year 10, or year 20 of your marriage.
Rule 4: It takes a real man to be satisfied with and love one woman for a lifetime. And it takes a real woman to be content with and respect one man for a lifetime.
Rule 5: Love isn't a feeling. Love is commitment. It's time to replace the "D word"--divorce--with the "C word"--commitment. Divorce may feel like a happy solution, but it results in long-term toxic baggage. You can't begin a marriage without commitment. You can't sustain one without it either. A marriage that goes the distance is really hard work. If you want something that is easy and has immediate gratification, then go shopping or play a video game.
Rule 6: Online relationships with old high school or college flames, emotional affairs, sexual affairs, and cohabiting are shallow and illegitimate substitutes for the real thing. Emotional and sexual fidelity in marriage is the real thing.
Rule 7: Women spell romance R-E-L-A-T-I-O-N-S-H-I-P. Men spell romance S-E-X. If you want to speak romance to your spouse, become a student of your spouse, enroll in a lifelong "Romantic Language School," and become fluent in your spouse's language.
Rule 8: During courtship, opposites attract. After marriage, opposites can repel each another. You married your spouse because he/she is different. Differences are God's gift to you to create new capacities in your life. Different isn't wrong, it's just different.
Rule 9: Pornography robs men of a real relationship with a real person and poisons real masculinity, replacing it with the toxic killers of shame, deceit, and isolation. Pornography siphons off a man's drive for intimacy with his wife. Marriage is not for wimps. Accept no substitutes.
Rule 10: As a home is built, it will reflect the builder. Most couples fail to consult the Master Architect and His blueprints for building a home. Instead a man and woman marry with two sets of blueprints (his and hers). As they begin building, they discover that a home can't be built from two very different sets of blueprints.
Rule 11: How you will be remembered has less to do with how much money you make or how much you accomplish and more with how you have loved and lived.
Pass on "The Rules" to a friend who will enjoy them!
Christian Child Placement Service, Adoption Agency
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229 ex. 14
adopt@nmcch.org
Rule 1: Marriage isn't about your happiness. It's not about you getting all your needs met through another person. Practicing self-denial and self-sacrifice, patience, understanding, and forgiveness are the fundamentals of a great marriage. If you want to be the center of the universe, then there's a much better chance of that happening if you stay single.
Rule 2: Getting married gives a man a chance to step up and finish growing up. The best preparation for marriage for a single man is to man up now and keep on becoming the man God created him to be.
Rule 3: It's okay to have one rookie season, but it's not okay to repeat your rookie season. You will make rookie mistakes in your first year of marriage; the key is that you don't continue making those same mistakes in year five, year 10, or year 20 of your marriage.
Rule 4: It takes a real man to be satisfied with and love one woman for a lifetime. And it takes a real woman to be content with and respect one man for a lifetime.
Rule 5: Love isn't a feeling. Love is commitment. It's time to replace the "D word"--divorce--with the "C word"--commitment. Divorce may feel like a happy solution, but it results in long-term toxic baggage. You can't begin a marriage without commitment. You can't sustain one without it either. A marriage that goes the distance is really hard work. If you want something that is easy and has immediate gratification, then go shopping or play a video game.
Rule 6: Online relationships with old high school or college flames, emotional affairs, sexual affairs, and cohabiting are shallow and illegitimate substitutes for the real thing. Emotional and sexual fidelity in marriage is the real thing.
Rule 7: Women spell romance R-E-L-A-T-I-O-N-S-H-I-P. Men spell romance S-E-X. If you want to speak romance to your spouse, become a student of your spouse, enroll in a lifelong "Romantic Language School," and become fluent in your spouse's language.
Rule 8: During courtship, opposites attract. After marriage, opposites can repel each another. You married your spouse because he/she is different. Differences are God's gift to you to create new capacities in your life. Different isn't wrong, it's just different.
Rule 9: Pornography robs men of a real relationship with a real person and poisons real masculinity, replacing it with the toxic killers of shame, deceit, and isolation. Pornography siphons off a man's drive for intimacy with his wife. Marriage is not for wimps. Accept no substitutes.
Rule 10: As a home is built, it will reflect the builder. Most couples fail to consult the Master Architect and His blueprints for building a home. Instead a man and woman marry with two sets of blueprints (his and hers). As they begin building, they discover that a home can't be built from two very different sets of blueprints.
Rule 11: How you will be remembered has less to do with how much money you make or how much you accomplish and more with how you have loved and lived.
Pass on "The Rules" to a friend who will enjoy them!
Christian Child Placement Service, Adoption Agency
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
1-800-553-2229 ex. 14
adopt@nmcch.org
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