How To Really Love My Pregnant Daughter

When you first learn your daughter is pregnant:
Shock
Disappointment
Despair
Embarrassment

You may think:
Her life is shattered & our lives are ruined
All of her and our hopes and dreams and plans are threatened

Take a Perspective Check:
It is not the end of the world, so:
Stay Calm
Avoid blame and condemning
Focus on the positive, she could have chosen an abortion.
Show grace and mercy, even when it is toughest!

Step into her shoes:
She is afraid
Overwhelmed
Does not feel like you love her
Feels alone
Facing a future she had not planned

Step up and be an asset for your daughter:
Reassure her of your unconditional love and concern
Affirm your confidence in her
Trust God wholeheartedly

Say It, she needs to hear this from you:
I still Love you
I am here for you
I will help you in whatever way I can
You have options
You have a whole lifetime ahead of you with a bright future

Her Health Should Be a Top Priority!
Be sure to:
Find a compassionate and caring health care provider
Make sure she has proper nutrition
See that she exercises appropriately
Be aware of hormonal changes
Check on her emotional well-being
Take away stressful situations
Acknowledge her feelings

Create a nonthreatening atmosphere:
Be willing to listen
Let her express her feelings
Don't give advice unless asked
Enable her to make rational decisions
Respect her privacy
Respect her feelings

There are many options for your daughter:
Adoption
Parenting
Temporary Custody from Family or Friends
Abortion
State Aid
Marriage
Voluntary Residential Care

You need support Too!
Get emotionally healthy so you can help your daughter
Get help from a pastor or minister
God is BIG enough to handle your doubts and questions
God's love is everlasting and unconditional
Receive help from others
And we are here to help you the parents also. As we work with your daughter we will support and can council with you also.

Call us with any questions you have:
Christian Child Placement Service
1-800-553-2229 ex 14
http://www.adoptnewmexico.org/
e-mail: adopt@nmcch.org